The only three categories beginning with W are Women’s rights, Work and Wicked Wednesday. Guess which one this post will be categorised under for the 110th time. This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt is Cougar. Definition: Large American cat (see above) or an older woman seeking a sexual relationship with a younger man. In this post I’m going to tell you why I am not and probably never will be a cougar.
All my men have been older
My ex is over 4.5 years older than me. I was most pleased when he asked me out because it was definitely a thing to have an older boyfriend. I was almost 16 and he was 20. Each year the gap widened slightly when he had his birthday in October and I caught up again the following August. Around that time we might have had about the same mental age and it suited us. We had lots of fun and were only grown ups at work (once I did so).
Later when chatting to men online I tried to avoid those that were young, preferring men of my own age or older. When I started meeting men I’d met online they were also older than me.
Young men online
There are lots of young men in chat rooms that seek out an older woman. No doubt the reverse is true, but I’ve never done it. They tell you they love older women, they want to learn from you and think you and other older women are sexy. I’d chat with some of them, but drew the line at anyone the same age or younger than my son. Nowadays they’d have to be over 30 for me to even pass the time of day! However I never wanted to meet any.
They may have been attractive, and I can’t say I mightn’t have fancied them in some way. Liked them even. But I don’t find a much younger man a turn on. It’s the same with women. I find many women attractive and sometimes have an attraction especially when described in erotic fiction. But I know I don’t want to have sex with a woman. It’s just me and I actually wish I did since it’s one of Master’s fantasies.
What about when I am old?
I’m not expecting to go looking for a man again, instead I hope to grow old with the man I have. But I guess there is a chance that when I’m 75 I might want sex with a 60 year old or something. However I wouldn’t imagine a 60 year old wanting a cougar. I guess only time will tell!
This post was my first Wicked Wednesday in 2016.
I have never really looked at age when I fell in love. I was with a man 6 years younger than I was back then, and I was also with a man 12 years older than I was. To me it has always been the person who is more important than the looks or the age. That said, I too don’t know what I will do when I am 75, and might want sex with someone younger. I know a lady, she’s 79 and her boyfriend is only 60, and they are absolutely wonderful together!
Rebel xox
It wasn’t till I got to the end that I wondered about if I was looking when I was much older what I’d do. But I hope that won’t happen.
I suppose I would never have thought about desiring younger men (Hubby is a number of years older than me) until we started our Swinging Club adventures. But I suddenly found that the … unexpected … approaches from, attractive, younger men was actually very flattering … and, I will admit, quite a turn-on.
But, of course, for more long-term, serious, relationships then I think personality, rather than age or looks, has got to be the most fulfilling and important factor.
Xxx – K
I’m sure for relationships it is about personality rather than age. It’s just that I haven’t met a younger man I wanted to share my life with. I can see how younger and attractive men would be flattering and appealing.
I have never been one for younger guys either – but never say never lol
I used to completely hate the idea of younger men, but I have changed my views on that somewhat now.!
we like what we like, you know and are comfortable with that. that’s how life should be
The future is unknown and impossible to predict. So, I agree, never say never)
Yeah, I’ve happened to do things in my life that I’ve denied before)))