You

1) If you were an ice-cream flavor, what would you be and why?

Hmm this is interesting. I’d love to say passion fruit, but that is probably Master. Maybe mint choc chip – I seem pretty cool, but suddenly you find something sweet, moist and I melt in your mouth. Well, in his mouth anyway!

2) What are the best sexy skills you bring to a sexual relationship?

Apparently I am a good fuck. I am also willing to try new things. Plus, I can and do come easily in the right hands and I come a lot.

3)What is the single largest problem causing you angst in your romantic relationship (current or most recent relationship)?

Just a few nerves about us moving in together (well me moving in with him). But that’s only because we have discussed it for so long and reality is beginning to hit home. I am pretty sure we will be fine.

4)What is the best part about being in a relationship with you?

I’m practical, I can cook and clean. Plus I can iron clothes, something Master seems reluctant to think is important, although perhaps he has the right idea. I also bring fun and humour. Sometimes real life with me is stranger and more interesting than fiction ever could be.

5)What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?

That because I am an extrovert I can’t also be shy and struggle to speak up in groups. I have to get to know people first.

6) Bonus:  When you look at old photos of yourself, do you like what you see?

I never seem as fat as I thought I was at the time. I don’t always look as happy as I thought I was though. I do like looking at old photos, but I prefer them to be of someone else.

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TMI Tuesday – Sexy Secrets

Sexy Secrets

1. Do you have a special place you like to have sex regularly?

Most of our sex takes place in or on a bed. Though the living room floor does feature. In general, comfort is the thing.

2. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? The scariest?

Probably keeping my mouth firmly shut about the type of relationship I am part of. It isn’t that I want to tell people my business, but it would be much easier if I could be more open.

3. Are you annoying?

I am pretty sure I can be very annoying. When I get anxious I talk too much with those I know and too little with those I don’t. It makes a social gathering unpredictable!

4. A person whom you’ve had “the hots” for a very long time tells you they are super attracted to you. You spend a few hours together and the sexual attraction is overwhelming. You are dying to have this person as your lover. At the moment you are highly aroused, and he/she wants to have sex with you in a church, would you do it?

Not sure I would have sex in a church. Might, and have got up to some reasonably naughty things in one. I guess if I really had the hots for someone, then spontaneous sex might happen. Just maybe not in a church.

5. While in the middle of the best lovemaking of your life, if your lover asked you to squeal like a dolphin, would you?

Probably. I have said and done some equally crazy things. I am a submissive don’t you know.

Bonus: Are you good in bed?

Ask my Master, he’ll tell you………

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TMI Tuesday: February 20 2018

I Need My Space

1. Do you think that fate or destiny play a role in love?
a. Absolutely
b. For the most part
c. Somewhat
d. Not really
e. Not at all

I am not romantic or superstitious in this kind of thing at all. But something has made the the events of the past few years happen. Firstly meeting S and learning what I did and didn’t want from a BDSM / kink relationship and then meeting Master. What we have is something I didn’t for one minute imagine I would get and I know it is the same for him.

2. True or False – If my sexual likes and dislikes are not in line with my partners, I change them.

False – I was married for 30 years (and in a relationship much longer) with a man with whom I had little in common sexually. It was impossible to change him and indeed, I was wrong to try to do so.

I would rather be celibate than have that happen again. Master knows what makes me tick and vice versa.

3. You and your partner are at a party. Both of you are equally acquainted with the hosts and the other people attending, although you aren’t the best of pals with any of the guests, you have conversed with them on a few occasions. During the socializing, what would you most likely do?
a. I’d stay glued to my partner’s side, conversing with the same people he/she is.
b. I’d be away from my partner, mingling with the other guests.
c. I’d stay near my partner, but involved in different conversations.
d. I spend some time by my partner’s side, and some time mingling.
e. I let my partner drift or stick by me – as she/he wishes.

It’s odd really. I am actually quite extroverted and he introverted. But he is much better than me at socialising with strangers. When I know people I am different and then am happy to ‘work the room’ as it were.

4. Have you ever gone through your partner’s journal, diary or personal letters?
a. Yes – I‘ve read it/them from A to Z.
b. Yes – I’ve read some of it/them.
c. I know where she/he keeps them but I haven’t read any.
d. I know where she/he keeps them – I couldn’t help but look – but I haven’t read any.
e. No – I don’t know where she/he keeps them, and I have no intention of looking.
f. No – I don’t know she/he keeps them, even though I’ve looked.

None of the above. I know he has personal things, but I really am not interested in finding them or looking. If he leaves things lying around I look as he does at my stuff. But neither of us go snooping. 

5. Have you ever had a romantic partner go through your journal, diary, personal letters or text messages without your permission? How did you feel? What did you do?

Yes, my husband, soon to be ex. Trust is very important and I would never trust him again.

Bonus:  What makes you feel loved?

Being able to Trust my partner. Plus knowing that I am his priority as a person. Then the fact I know he wants and fancies me and lastly that he tells me and I know he means it. 

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TMI Tuesday – 19 September 2017

TMI Tuesday – 19 September 2017

1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do

I am not sure that I would go to a therapist for any kind of relationship support. I tried it when my marriage was ending and I was struggling to get him to accept the inevitable. I discovered that I had everything I wanted worked out in my head. What I also discovered was that me having counselling wouldn’t make him cope any better. He was the one needing the help and that couldn’t happen unless he pitched up. Having said that, if I needed therapy for a mental health problem I would take it if I felt it would help. Can’t see it happening right now though.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

I suspect that at different times, sex can be any of the above for him. He likes to have sex with me, he says I turn him on. He finds me exciting! But there are times when sex is a great relief for stress and tension. There’s no doubt it is also a way to show love, though sex for us is usually a bit more raunchy than that.

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

We have the kind of relationship where we tell each other everything. 3 years ago, I agreed to be his slave and so being open comes with the territory. Anyway I want to tell him. Keeping secrets was part of the reason my relationship with hubby failed and I don’t intend that to happen again. We are open with each other, so it’s a two way street.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

For us it is about being willing and able to speak about our feelings for each other including deeper emotions. Also it is about being able to tell the other about your fantasies and fears too. I can’t say this is always easy, but generally we both know when the other has something they need to say to the other.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

I don’t really want weekends to myself anymore. Weekends are when we spend time together. I guess if I had to I would and if I did, perhaps I would do something we wouldn’t do together. Maybe a spa weekend or a trip to somewhere hot where I could sun bathe. But I know that it wouldn’t be the same doing anything without him there.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

I don’t think there is any chance I would want to buy something he would hate. Since I don’t think I would like it either. I buy things I like, but tend to wonder if he would like them too.

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TMI Tuesday – Sex on the Brain

Sex on the Brain

1. Is a weird “sex face/orgasm face” a total deal-breaker?

I am of the opinion that once you get to the point of orgasm, then your face is likely to demonstrate true emotions much more than anything you say. If someone’s expression is a little weird at that point then so be it! Anyway who is paying attention to that kind of thing unless they are on film and that is something else entirely.

2. Do you enjoy having your balls played with (or playing with balls)?

I have no balls, but enjoy playing with Masters balls during sex.

3. Have you ever hooked-up with somebody based on their proximity to your smartphone location (Tinder, GRINDR, etc)?

Nope. Never used Tinder, though my son met his fiancé that way. We did meet online however. I guess the fact we met in a chatroom makes us old school!

4. You have some free-time in the workday–blow job or intercourse? (BJ can be giving or receiving).

Gosh, this has never happened. I guess giving a blog job would be easier, quicker and less likely to affect my ability to get through the rest of the day……..

5. How long after having sex with a new partner do you have to wait before falling asleep?

I think that when we first had sex we both drifted off afterwards. Mind you it was a little more than straight sex. That was 3.5 years ago so must qualify in the new bracket.

Bonus: What’s the dirtiest or sexiest text message you’ve ever received?

In the early days some of his texts to me included instructions about what to wear or do. That hasn’t happened for a while. Most texts these days are direct and functional!

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3 Responses to TMI Tuesday – Sex on the Brain

  1. Great answers. It’s good to see another individual from the BDSM lifestyle on TMI…

  2. fondles says:

    Here i am 🙂 I’ll add you to my roll. (weren’t you already there tho? technology escapes me sometimes.)

  3. Julie says:

    I moved. I know technology escapes me too! xx

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Important Questions: TMI Tuesday 30 May 2017

Important Questions

1. If you are on facebook, when was the last time you had to “unfriend” someone and why?

I unfriended Master’s ex after one final messenger altercation and the feeling that she was watching our every mood. Not sure now why I didn’t do it before. He has also unfriended her.

2. What are you addicted to?

Probably alcohol. I love the taste of it and am probably drinking far too much; I must cut back. Otherwise my phone, twitter, Facebook and all of that stuff.

3. What are the first 3 things you do every morning?

Apart from go to the loo and have a shower, they would be check my phone, make coffee and open my laptop!

4. How lucky are you and why?

I consider myself very lucky to have found new love after my long marriage. Lucky too that I have discovered the submissive in myself and that my new love is now my Master. Lucky that my son is happy and settled and that I am able to enjoy life to the full.

5. What is one thing you’re embarrassed to admit you want to try?

Not sure that I am embarrassed about anything, certainly not here on my blog.

Bonus: Are you proud of what you are doing?

I am proud that I am able to live my life the way I wish. however I wish I could be more open about the nature of our relationship to others.

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TMI Tuesday

Life: dating, your body and more

1. What period of your life was the happiest? Why?

I am probably happier now than I have been at any time in my life. I enjoy my job, for all it is stressful. Master is a wonderful man who knows exactly what I need, he makes me happy and I love to serve him. We are able to travel and to have lots of fun times. My son is happy in his relationship and my ex is finally moving on.

2. True or False. If you want a successful date, take charge–take the lead. Why?

I guess it depends who the date is with. I hate to be out with someone who is indecisive. This has, in the past led me to want to take control. These days though, I prefer that I don’t take charge, which is just as well!

3. True or false: Males are aggressive and assertive, and women are nurturing. Explain your answer.

False. There are aggressive women and there are nurturing men and vice versa. These traits are not related to gender but to personality, and learned behaviours.

4. Is your body keeping you from a good sex life? How so?

My body is trying to do just that. The menopause is means that there are times when I am not as wet as I used to get and I can get sore during penetrative sex. Also, as previously documented I seem to have developed a problem with pain during vaginal sex. We are working through these things though and don’t let it get in the way of a good time.

5. Smiles. Do you have a sexy smile that is different from your regular smile. Post a pic of your sexy smile or describe it for us?

Oh, I am sure I have a different smile when I am giving Master the come on, or else during sex and play. I’ll have to ask him about it!

Bonus: May is Masturbation Month. Which of these is your best benefit from masturbating:
a. helps you to relax and/or fall asleep I don’t masturbate regularly any more. But this would be one of the best reasons to do so. Especially when I am all alone.
b. boosts self-esteem
c. combats erectile dysfunction
d. helps you know what feels good so you can tell your sex partner

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2 Responses to TMI Tuesday

  1. Nero says:

    Nice answers, #4 in particular aligns with something that has just occurred to me about my situation (which I haven’t blogged on yet)

  2. I completely agree with you on number 3!

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TMI Tuesday – Dates, Mates & Relationships

Dates, Mates & Relationships

1. Which of these are you most often guilty of in a relationship:
a. jealousyI am not sure any of these are really me, but this is the most likely. Worrying about what went before and whether the other person was better at something than me. As if it is important. 
b. not apologizing
c. not keeping your word
d. guilt trips

2. Which of the following behaviors would annoy you most in a partner.
a. fishing for compliments by verbalizing self-doubt – My ex did and does this all of the time. Mind you he did b and d too. 
b. passive-aggressive behavior
c. usually forgets important dates i.e., birthday, anniversary
d. making you feel guilty when spending time with friends

3. Consider you are looking for a mate, rank these traits in order of importance, with 1 being most important, and 7 being least important.
___ Kindness 2
___ Honesty 1
___ Ambitious 7
___ Confidence 5
___ Reliable 3
___ Assertive 6
___ Sense of Humor 4

4. Score! You exchanged numbers with a hottie. Now you: (pick one)
a. Wait for a week, see if that person calls you first. Strange as it seems, I have never been in this situation and don’t expect to be. Hoping not to play the dating game again. 
b. Call the next day if not sooner.
c. Call and text incessantly. Let them know they’ve made an impression.
d. You’d never call. What if you get rejected?

5. How did you handle your last relationship break up?
a. You’ve never been in a relationship before. The timing’s never been right.
b. You went out and got drunk every night, until you forgot everything.
c. You went out on a massive amount of date, even with people you knew you had no interest, making sure to date a new face every night.
d. You felt bad and cried, but bounced back in a couple of days.

None of the above. I played around online and found myself the right man.

Bonus: Would you take a holiday all by yourself, at the ‘spur of the moment’? Why or Why not? Where would you go? I did, I went off to Florence for a long weekend on my own. Things were difficult at home and I wanted to get away. The two men who might have come with me (not together) chose not to. It made me realise that there is no need to wait around for someone to do what you want and need. Just get on and do it yourself. Now I have no need of a holiday alone, but I am not frightened of it. 

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TMI Tuesday – 30th August 2016

It’s the last TMI Tuesday for the month of August. Did you know August was originally named Sextilis (‘sixth’). In 8 B.C. Sextilis was renamed August in honor of Roman Emperor Augustus. BTW…August or Sextilis was the sixth month of the year in the ancient Roman 10-month calendar.

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Now for more about August:
1. In the Philippines today is National Heroes Day. Who is your hero? (You can name up to 3). Why?
The only person who I could call my hero right now is Master. He has helped me find the most important things in life and is busy assisting me in getting myself into a position so we can live together. Right now I don’t need anything extra.
2. August is Romance Awareness Month. What have you done to enhance romance in your life? Or what have you become aware of or discovered with regards to romance?
After our holiday to Sicily we realised we needed to get our M/s and kinky selves back on track. The holiday was wonderful, but very busy. Added to that we are in the process of getting my house ready to sell and his for me to be able to live with him in. We spend some of our time reconnecting each week and that helps the romantic side of our life too.
3. In the month of August there is National Raspberry Creme Day, National Ice Cream Sandwich Day, and National Chocolate Chip Cookie Day. Which day are you most likely to celebrate and how would you celebrate?
I really eat very few puddings / sweets / ice creams right now since I am trying to lose weight. But if pushed I would go for the Raspberry cream. 
4. August 13 was International Left-hander’s Day. Who out there is a lefty? Anyone ambidextrous?
I am left handed but have learned to be ambidextrous since to be honest the world is made for right handed people. I think that our use of the internet, keyboards, mice and smart phones have helped. The best way to tell though is how people use their cutlery. 
5. In the U.K. today is a late summer Bank Holiday. What are you doing (or did you do) with your “free” time?
Yep it was a bank holiday weekend. We went to see Allegro which is being shown here for the first time, found an Italian market over the road for some lunch. We ate wonderful tapas and we spent time trying to fix up my garden ready for my house sale later this month. Painting a fence is completed more easily if you are ambidextrous!
Bonus: Post a pic from your mobile phone that was taken in this month of August. Explain the photo…or not🙂
My favourite photo from August was this one, taken in France at the beginning of the month.

TMI Tuesday – July 19th 2016

My first TMI for a while, but glad to join in and share
1. Hi there. Tell us about your job and what you do?
I work in the UK health service. My job is about improving the quality and value for money of maternity services. I work with Doctors, midwives and families who use the service so while I no longer provide healthcare services myself, I am close to them. It is less stressful and definitely easier on the body than when I was nursing.
2. What piece of advice would you give to a co-worker?
Remember who we are here for – not ourselves but those who use the services. But remember we are not indispensable, there is nothing in our job that can’t be left till tomorrow. 
3. What 2 pieces of advice would you give to a new blogger?
Decide what your blog is about and who you are writing for.  Write for yourself and not an audience, and the followers will turn up and contribute. Visit other blogs and comment there, become part of the ‘community’
4. What 1 piece of advice would you give to a veteran blogger–someone blogging for more than 3 years?
Consider the purpose of your blog, at the start and now. Keep things fresh and don’t just post for the sake of it.
5. What do you hope visitors to your blog see, take away, feel or learn?
I  hope people see that I am honest and open and that I am true to myself as a woman, and a slave. I hope that people are able to take something away for themselves, but that they recognise that my relationship is not necessarily theirs. 
6. Have you ever had something happen to you that you thought was bad but it turned out to be for the best?
I thought that Master’s former slave finding out about my blog and muscling in on my place in the world would be the end of my blog. But actually it had a very different effect on our relationships than I might have imagined. 
Bonus: What was the last experience that made you a stronger person?
The past 2 years have been a massive learning experience – the loss of my dad, my mum’s health problems and subsequent coming to terms with them. But mostly the realisation that I can have my own life with Master which is not dependent on the expectations of other people.
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