Elust #126

Thank you Cara for choosing my post An advent diary as one of your picks for this month’s Elust!

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Welcome to Elust 126

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

2020, the year I stop masturbating.

I Am Fat: On Fat Acceptance and Fat Shaming

Colour Match

 

~ Featured Post by our Guest Editor(Cara’s Picks) ~

An advent diary

Splosh!

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

From ‘Innocent’ Girl to Obedient Slave
The Trail
How to have the worst sex ever (if you’re me)
I think I have sex dreams
Moving On When You Can’t Stop Holding On
Bucket, Fuck and Christmas Lists

Blogging

Evolution of Sweetgirl’s Blog

Books and Movies

Castle: The Celluloid Dungeon

Erotic Non-Fiction

Locked For Christmas 2019
I Had Sex in My Teachers Bed
Submissive Romance
Oasis

Erotic Fiction

Naughty Elf
After the Convention
List in a Bucket ~ Looking Back
Present Number 3
A Naughty Christmas Pudding
A Christmas Offering-A fairy Tale
Christmas Cracker [Part 2]
A Dream So Real

Poetry

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Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Femdom for bushfire relief

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Whither Joy

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2019 In Review

Over the past few years, at the end of December, I’ve looked back over my blog and created a review. The year has, on the whole been a good one, we’ve travelled to new places and done some fabulous things. This is my 235th post this year, up considerably on last year. I’ve discovered that writing about something is better than writing nothing. So it was only when I was away for the whole of July that I didn’t write at least twice a week. I’ll write more about stats when I post about my plans for 2020. But now, this is my year – 2019 in review.

January

The year didn’t start especially well for me, a hangover as it were from 2018. The unfinished business was radiotherapy for my breast cancer. The treatment itself wasn’t bad, but the cumulative effects – physical and emotional were. This post sums up the month. I haven’t written for the Sex Bloggers for Mental Health meme often and this is something I plan to rectify in 2020.

On 10th January I wrote this Friday Flash post and although I haven’t written much fiction in 2019 I managed two in January. My goal in 2020 will be at least one piece of fiction per month.

Being mainly confined to home, I wrote 27 posts in January, which set me up pretty well for February photofest.

February

My 7th highest post / category of all time is my February Photofest one for 2019. I posted 36 times, so it obviously wasn’t all about the images. I began to show bits of my body, and especially noticeable are the radiotherapy burns visible on any photo showing my chest.

Tell me about, which is co-run by Missy and Sweetgirl, have led to some reflective and thought provoking posts in 2019. This one, about showing my own vulnerability, is no exception.

Love Lock, is a fiction piece about genital piercings used to provide female chastity. I’ve now linked it to my most popular post ever – Chastity, does a girl need to be locked in? Something I did following a talk by Girl on the Net at Eroticon (more of that event below).

March

There were 19 posts in March, and two of my favourites are photos posted for Sinful Sunday. This one, Double Exposure was for the prompt week at the beginning of the month and Birthday Breakfast at the very end on Master’s birthday. Both were taken in hotel bedrooms and I am thankful that we have the opportunity to travel both here and abroad and to stay in some fabulous places. In these relaxed environments I have begun to feel able to share photos of my body again.

The other notable event was Eroticon, which I wrote about here. As the conference rolls around again soon, I am really excited to catch up with old friends and to meet new people.

April

Once again I joined in with the Blogging A-Z, this time using my blog history to examine how my journey has progressed. I found it a useful reflective tool which showed me how I have changed (or not) along the way. I posted 29 times, often combing other memes with the Blogging A-Z one. While I said afterwards that I wouldn’t participate again, I have an idea so I just might!

Favourite posts from this month were this one, of Master in the Swing of Relaxation and this one entitled Kinky. Both include images taken at STOXX which is sadly no longer available to rent.

May

Of the 22 blog posts for May, several are especially memorable. On 1st I wrote my Confessions of an unruly slave for The Erotic Journal Challenge. Brigit’s prompts are thought provoking and now they are monthly I’m better able to join in with them all. I think that particular post sums me up. I want to be the perfect slave, but often fall short.

Unmentionable has turned out to be particularly popular in terms of traffic. This is in no small way due to being placed in the top 3 posts for Elust #119. I would highly recommend submitting to Elust to help broaden your readership.

At the end of May we toured around Holland and Belgium for a week, during which time we were lucky enough to meet up with Marie Rebel and Master T. We enjoyed a lovely afternoon / evening together which I write about here. I’m looking forward to seeing both at Eroticon in March.

The following day we travelled to Amsterdam where we stayed in the Kinky Suite. My review is here.

June

Once again I joined Every Damn Day in June on Hy’s blog, and while I didn’t manage to post every day I did manage 29 posts. I participated in my first Lingerie is for everyone meme with this post. There’s new lingerie for 2020, so, I will be participating again soon.

I discovered a friend had passed away in April, but didn’t know until mid June. I wrote about him here.

July

We left for France at the beginning of July. Somehow I had run out of steam and was a bit out of love with writing and posting. So, there wee only 4 posts, one of which was Elust. Lazy days and hot nights sums up the month.

August

We were away for the majority of August too. But despite being on a boat with no Wifi for a week I still managed to write 12 blog posts. My favourite photo, posted for Sinful Sunday was this one – Topless. At last I was getting my mojo back!

On 29th I wrote about some issues I’ve been having with elusive orgasms. I’m pleased to say that the strategies we have been taking since seem to be helping.

September

This month we returned to CMnf after a break of a year and my mastectomy. I wrote here, about the wonderful reception I received. Sun kissed skin was a favourite photo, posted for Wicked Wednesday. How I love the feeling of the sun on my skin. Something to think about in the middle of winter!

The Smutathon took place at the end of September and while I wasn’t a participant, I wrote this post about abortion to link in with something that I consider a very important cause.

October

My Kissing Vignettes post for Food For Thought was in hindsight a way of edging myself back towards writing fiction. The post is based on some happy memories, but with a little artistic licence thrown in. The other of my 15 posts during October that I want to highlight is this one.

I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer last year during awareness month. My Breast Care Nurse warned me at the time to steer clear of the internet and I can understand why. This year, May More contacted me to ask if I was happy for her to write something to raise awareness, which of course I was. She inspired me to write the post above.

November

My Sinful Sunday post for November didn’t conform to the set prompt. But having the image available to use, I just had to post it. Molly and many others retweeted my post and then it and then it was chosen as one of the top Sinful Sunday posts that week, despite not being related to the prompt. I still feel proud and positive about this image. It has gone on to be the 6th most viewed post of all time (not just this year). And was partly responsible for my best ever blog stats that month.

My post – Submissive Training is it necessary for Tell Me About has proved immensely popular, and is currently number 8 on the all time list. The other of my 19 posts for November to highlight is this one. Bedroom Talk is another post based on reality, but which lends itself to a kind of faction (when you kind of remember stuff but have to elaborate). I posted this on Masturbation Monday.

December

That Bedroom Talk post inspired me to actually write some fiction. I’m really proud of An Advent Diary and am thinking of making it into a rolling story through the year. Perhaps the next instalment will be around Valentines……

At the beginning of December I was happy and proud to find that I was once again recognised in the Top 100 Sex Blogger List. This year I am at 32. My aim is for a top 10 spot, which will need some work both in terms of content and blog structure. I’m up for a challenge,

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#Elust 125

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Welcome to Elust 125

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

For Love

Apologise

I got that Dominant Feeling

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Observing a Sex blogger or Two by Mr More
The cutie pie and the sex toy, Part 2

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Fiction

Lelia, Interrupted
The Flight
Helping Hand (a Husband’s Fantasy)
The Sexual Torture Wave
Room 26 – Pearce (A Life of Pleasure Part 2)

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

That Little Click
Learning to Be Friends Again
5 Reasons Why Unsolicited Dick Pics Aren’t Ok
My partner is FB official with my metamour

Body Talk & Sexual Health

You Like That, Don’t You? -A Submissive’s Str

Erotic Non-Fiction

Silk
The Bodyguard, Part I
A Dirty Treat

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

5 Countries Where Sex Toys Are Illegal
Mainstream Chastity?

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Submissive Training is it necessary?
Cum tribute me

Blogging

Plan your multitasking…
Spam bot or sex worker?

Books and Movies

Secret Diary of Call Girl: Celluloid Dungeon
 

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Elust #124

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Welcome to Elust 124

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back December1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Death of Sexual Desire

Snapshot

Your consent is not continual

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Smile for the Camera

Lessons From Two Years in a Polyamorous Triad

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

This Moment
Always in Character

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

A rose by any other name
Ideas for non-impact pain play
So you want to be a submissive wife
Female Chastity – physical or emotional
Anal – A slow and careful undoing

Erotic Fiction

Good Girl Bunny
Seduced by the Succubus
A Strange Encounter
Calling upon the Spirits of Air
Gosh, Didn’t Know You Were Here

Erotic Non-Fiction

A Gentleman’s Excuse Me
Do I Dare?
Headmaster Dixon Will See You Now
The cutie pie and the sex toy
One Year of Chastity!!

Poetry

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Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

What sex is REALLY like, in my world:

Body Talk and Sexual Health

My Diva Cup Experience

Movies and Books

Halloween
Hardcore (1979): The Celluloid Dungeon

 

Elust

Elust #123

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Welcome to Elust 123

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #124? Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Bittersweet Symphony

Breast cancer awareness – check your boobs

The devil is in the detail…

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Metamorphosis: Fat, Fit and In Between

Contraception- life without birth control

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Non-Fiction

Take It To The Limit
Marshmallows
Spank me Red
Custom Made Cuckold Porn

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Control
The Image (1975): The Celluloid Dungeon
Return to CMnf
Latex for the Curious – Catsuits
Negotiating a stunt cock
Ruby Ring Piece
13 reasons why I love play parties
You Got a Piercing Where?

Erotic Fiction

Alice’s Minotaur: A Ravishment Tale
Shadow of You
Punished
The Jealous Wife
What we both want
Rugby world cup I only care about the fucking
The Red Thread

Elust 120

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Welcome to Elust 120

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #119? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

In full swing The Hunter [Sexuality] The Pain of Tolerance  

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

First Ritual Being Overlooked

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

No new post for this month *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!     Erotic Non-Fiction Interlude Piercings – His and Hers Ever had your skirt fall off while walking Tiny Man-Clit Meets The Bigdownunder Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish Frustrated Whimpers Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships Surviving Toxicity How To Have Sex When You Live At Home When life gets in the way George Clooney said I looked like Geena Davis Fuck You Dad I guess it feels a little wierd now Erotic Fiction Natalie’s New Friend Kneel before me Lasshole fucker 4 Deep Impact     Elust

Elust #119

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Welcome to Elust 119

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #119? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Poly wobbles Friendly Concern Unmentionable

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Breakthrough Wait Silently

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Sensual Indulgence, Familiar and New *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Teaching (from) the bottom (part 1) An Intro to Ethical Cum Tributes What is Dominance? Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast 105 [w transcript] Unmentionable Lifestyle In the wild

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac I Hate Bullies!

Erotic Non-Fiction

Devilish Threesome Fun Cumming Awake Flying Chaste

Body Talk and Sexual Health

How Taking Nudes Taught Me To Love Myself Guest post: Trans access to abortion

Erotic Fiction

Milky Way More Than Friends Prologue Desperate Twisted ~ Into The Woods ~ Lana’s Story A Gift to the Gods A New Fetish Coitus Interruptus Vampyr Making herself available

Writing About Writing

Smut Marathon – Round 4 Thoughts

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A True Friend Trust your landmark and run through the smoke I’m not interested.

Poetry

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Elust #118

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Welcome to Elust 118

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #119? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

I have daddy issues Processing Emotions about Polyamory Mirror Masturbation

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

V is for view Not Alone

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Negotiating “NO”   *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Tension

Erotic Non-Fiction

BDSM for Beginners My first time being co-topped The power of touch

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Hear My Confession Avengers Assemble #30DayOrgasmFun: Tapping Out

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

How I Started Moving Past Old Hurts #AtoZChallenge -X is for XXX Vanilla date #1: Incompatible-Awesome Confessions of an unruly slave

Writing About Writing

Relying on Email More Than Social Media

Erotic Fiction

His turn in the shower Sharp Beauty Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun Oxana, With Love Sixty Nine Steps Glorious garden fuck Actually, that’s what the dog-whip is for

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Don’t ask us to watch you wank for free.     Elust

Elust 117

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Welcome to Elust 117

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #118? Start with the rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

A dominant presence He Gripped Her Hand and Centered Her Being alone together.  

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

What the fig? Mind and body

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

O! or, errr… NO!: Orgasm Control in an F/m Dynamic   *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Fantasies Never Let You Down My First Love New Fun with Old Friends Sometimes coming joint second emotional disconnection, sex and loneliness People Don’t Talk about This Sh!t

Erotic Fiction

Waking the Fallen Daisy opera seria Catch the Catcher Club Dress Extended Dreams … (the Second : Arabian Nights) The orgasmic arch

Erotic Non-Fiction

The Five Senses of Sex A public beating Rope Dreams

Poetry

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Primal Regression and Submission 14 Qualities of a “Good” Dominant Balance in F/m voices

Events

Do I want you to hold my hand?

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Sex in Class That’s My Kink – All Hail The Nipple Clit

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Why I’m not smiling for IWD     Elust

Elust #115

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Welcome to Elust 115

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #116? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder Your Loss Ask for It

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Two Explorers Sweet Child of Mine

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

{Na}Scent Traces   *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!  

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Long Shadow Asleep on the job Self-care: am I dating myself? Love, Lust & Living with the Man of my Dreams

Erotic Non-Fiction

The Space Between Australia Day Bukakke In Her Panties Sensuality and the senses Happy New Year Technical Sex: Control Give and take

Erotic Fiction

Brat Worth the Trouble Panty Thief Twisted Fairy Tale #4 Hans & Greta PJ’s Horseshoe I Lay Beside You

Poetry

The Rider

Body Talk and Sexual Health

What is normal? Less Sex, Less Drive

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Not Micromanaging My Pleasure The bdsm baby blues Meeting a sub… or not

Writing About Writing

5 Things to Do When You Feel Overwhelmed

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

UK law removes anti-bdsm rules     Elust