Masturbation – kink of the week

May is Masturbation month and not surprisingly Molly has chosen this as the topic for Kink of the Week. For me, masturbation like a number of the more sexual aspects of my life is something that has changed over the past few years.

I spent many years masturbating in private, and doing it frequently. A few minutes at home alone after getting in from work, the time between hubby leaving for work and my son beginning to stir in the room next door. I used fingers and I used various vibrating toys. I poured over the clitical.com website for new techniques and had some fun. I learned how to find my own g-spot, and experimented with ice, to name two new things I found out there. But to be frank I found it frustrating. It was pleasurable, but that pleasure only lasted for a few seconds after the climax came. I sensed that I needed a more fulfilling sex life and that masturbation wasn’t meant to be something that happened instead. This relationship has taught me that my hunch was correct.

During my marriage I hated the idea of my husband masturbating while he was beside me, but knew that he did so, usually after I fell asleep but not always. I hated the idea of him knowing that I masturbated too. Looking back there were some fundamental problems with our willingness to be open sexually with each other. I assumed that this was normal behaviour but now know differently.

Master owns my orgasms. It was one of the first things of mine that he took control and ownership of (intact, perhaps it was the first). This means I must thank him when I cum, and I must tell him it is his. That doesn’t mean he must be present when it happens, therefore I am allowed to masturbate. However, these days, the need to do so is much reduced. There is no need for me to sneak around before anyone comes home or goes out. I can happily lie on my bed naked and use my fingers or a vibe. But I tend not to (though it can help if I am unable to sleep at night). Instead I prefer to masturbate in his presence. Or for him to do so to me.

Mutual Masturbation has become part of my life in a way that I never expected, as has watching while he masturbates himself perhaps looking at some porn. I find this arousing rather than disturbing as I might have done previously. I am happy for him to look at and explore my body, and am relaxed with him watching me wank. Indeed sometimes he demands it of me.

The orgasms achieved through masturbation are for me different, depending on the method and who is making them happen. If wanking myself, then I prefer using a clitoral vibrator and I like the rapid and intense build up it gives. If Master is bringing me to orgasm, then I love the feel of his fingers and the slower, less intensive build up. The worst thing though is when he begins his count down and then stops touching me. It isn’t that it stops the orgasm coming but more that I hate the loss of direct stimulation from his gentle touch.

Masturbation for me is something very different from how it used to be. Different in a good and fulfilling way.

It works both ways

It plays a big part in TTWD, but it is a mutual thing.
We are people in our 50’s and our lives are full and busy. Though we don’t live together we spend weekends and where possible other times together. We enjoy that time, but for reasons of time, energy and of course giving time to the things we enjoy, our sex life isn’t always just about penetration. Mutual masturbation is an important part of what we do.
Let me say here that I am allowed to masturbate when we are not together, but I do need to seek permission for an orgasm, either before or to inform it has happened. When I orgasm, I must tell Master (even if He is not present), that it belongs to Him and I must thank Him. However, I don’t generally masturbate nor cum without Him present and prefer that it is His hand on my clit or nipples.
But I digress, since it is the fact that we masturbate in front of each other and that we masturbate each other that I want to talk about.
We both love to stroke the other, that feeling of a finger brushing over a nipple, a clit or indeed cock is very erotic. Master loves me to hold His balls while He masturbates and I love to hold His cock and to stroke Him, to rub that wonderful manhood.
The most sensual part though belongs to our mouths. When I run my tongue over the tip of Master’s cock, when I close my mouth over His manhood and gently suck. When I push down and feel Him at the back of my throat, or He starts to fuck my mouth. They are the most amazing feelings.
For me the sensation of His tongue rubbing against my clitoris, teasing the piercing. Sucking me, bringing me close to that wonderful orgasmic feeling is something I just love so much.
Enjoying your partner’s body is something to enjoy and to savour. Mutual masturbation allows both of us that opportunity and gives us an intimacy that I just love.

For His pleasure

I haven’t written about much about my piercings and certainly not recently. But events this morning have had me thinking that perhaps I should say something here and now.

My nipples and clitoral hood were pierced in April last year. This was something I had considered in the past, but had not been brave enough to go through with. Having Him with me when I had the procedure done. Knowing how Much He wanted me to get those piercings was the incentive I needed. From the beginning they have been an amazing part of our sex life, giving both pain and pleasure to me. They have enhanced His enjoyment of my body – in terms of power, pain and sexual arousal.

However, there have been one or two problems. The left nipple piercing was a little lower than the right and was always more painful. Changing jewellery was not without its issues and putting a ring in for the first time was complicated. One day, without me knowing the left ring partially fell out and I was unable to get the bar back in. For a couple of months I just had the one nipple pierced. But I am pleased to say, that in November on our most recent trip to Amsterdam I had the left nipple re-pierced. This time it looks and feels right and so far I have had no problems with it. Sadly this means that Master’s desire to link all 3 piercings together by a chain is still a little way off, but I am pretty sure we will get there.

One of the things both of us love, is the way in which I can ride Him and can use the clitoral hood bar to give pleasure to Him. Of course at the same time I am getting something very good in return. He loves also to rub that bar while I grind on Him and bring me off.

This morning though He did something new for us. He used my nipple bar as foreplay for us both, rubbing the tip of His cock, slowly over it. gradually His cock became harder and harder. I contributed by biting His nipple, something He also loves. He used His other hand to stroke me some, exclaiming that I was wet (why wouldn’t I be?) and gradually He brought us both close to orgasm.

He started the countdown to the orgasm, “10”. He was about to demand from His girl. He Masturbated me and Himself at the same time, (how does He do that?). I felt the familiar feelings beginning to flow through me, 9, 8, 7, 6.

At this point I wondered if I would be able to hold off and if I did, whether I would be able to cum as He got to 1 and beyond. But the memory of that cock head on my nipple and the feeling of His fingers on me, brought me to the point – 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. He took His hand away and said CUM, just as my hips arched and I felt my cunt throb.

Shortly afterwards we brought Him to orgasm and I was able to claim a lovely breakfast time prize.

Sometimes the simplest things can give the most pleasure and this morning was one of those occasions.