Blogging A-Z Challenge: Kink

I’m back at work and have slipped behind with the challenge. Still I will as always catch up. Today I’m going to talk about kink and am linking this up with Quote Quest meme:

“I feel the need to endanger myself every so often.” – Tim Daly

With age I’ve become a little less risk averse. Especially when it comes to the things I am willing to try out at least once. I think discovering kink has helped with this. I wouldn’t say I spent most of my adult life being completely risk averse but I did live with someone who liked everything planned out. I love spontaneity but am also not averse to planning. I just prefer it when someone else takes the lead on that.

Taking risks

I definitely took some at the start too. Looking back to the beginning of things with S I might have thrown a little too much caution to the wind. After all I did meet a man at a hotel with the intention of having kinky sex with him. Everything turned out well. But I was a bit more careful the next time, with Master. That time I didn’t take my clothes off till the second date (which happened to be the next day). It felt right and it was. I’m not sure if that is about age, experience or stupidity. But I did it and all is still well. I’m pretty sure though that I won’t be doing that stuff again.

During our relationship I’ve been pretty willing to try most stuff Master has suggested even if he has had to push my limits from time to time. Of course we don’t do anything massively dangerous, but by its nature stuff that others might not like or approve of.

I decided that in order to get what I wanted I needed to try new things and meet with new people. Over all this past 9 years have been some of the best of my life and I’m happy for them to continue. I’m especially looking forward to going to a kink club again.

Being an older person at a kink club

The thing is lots of people who are older than me go to kink clubs and have a great time. That’s one of the things I’ve most enjoyed; you can be too young, but you are pretty much never too old. Last time (in March last year) we got talking to a couple in their 80s. It was wonderful to see how they have adapted their play to deal with reduced mobility and lower pain thresholds. Plus they can still dress up, have fun and meet new people.

Before my first CMnf I was very apprehensive. Imagining that everyone would be younger, thinner and more attractive than me. Course none of that matters because if Master says I look good then I do. Plus I found that no one particularly takes any notice of others. All the women were naked (or semi) and that becomes the norm. Then when people are playing its about the actions of the Dom and the reactions of the sub that catch the eye and attention. Not their age, size and shape.

I guess it will be a while before we get the chance to attend an event such as that again. But when they start up I’m pretty sure I’ll be ready for it.

2 thoughts on “Blogging A-Z Challenge: Kink”

  1. I had similar worries before we went to a swingers’ club…but found all ages were there, and it made me feel a lot more comfortable. In fact, that and blogging and all of the little risks I’ve taken over the past 12 years have done wonders for my self esteem and sexual comfort. I guess I’m less risk averse now, too, even though I would consider myself a huge chicken when it comes to sexual adventure. In comparison to so many others, I’m very adventurous and have taken lots of risks. I guess it’s all relative.

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