Do you believe in destiny? That even the powers of time can be altered for a single purpose?From Dracula by Bram Stoker
It’s funny, I thought my destiny was one thing, but it turned out to be something else. At the end of my marriage I assumed I would live out my days alone somewhere. Maybe dating, but not in a long term relationship. I didn’t go looking for love along with BDSM but I found it. I didn’t originally go looking for a D/s relationship, but when it came my way I knew it was right. With Master I was looking for D/s and found an owner. This relationship is right for us both now, but it wouldn’t have suited the younger me.
Master and I have talked at length about what would have happened had we met sooner. It’s nice to imagine a long and happy relationship, maybe children together. But the reality is that we may not have fitted so well together had we met say in our 30’s or 40’s.
For a start I thought I needed to control everything back then. Until I realised that it tired me out and I wanted not to have to be in charge. If someone had shown me my future self, I’m not sure I would have believed it. What’s more I would have fought against giving up the responsibilities. The power and control. I suspect we would have been less tolerant with each other when we were younger than we manage now. There are lots of things we agree about, but equally quite important things we don’t. I’ve learned to respect the views of others without giving up on my own. To walk away from an argument you can’t win. Not to bear a grudge. All of these things have helped make this relationship a success where my marriage was doomed from the start.
Master is strong willed and able. More intelligent and well read than me. We learn from each other, but I admit to learning more from him. I possess greater compassion for others as well as tolerance of difference. We are greater together than the sum of our two parts. We laugh, we have fun and also we are serious. But we don’t have to worry about taking ourselves too seriously all of the time.
But in the end destiny brought us together. Something made me log into alt and start chatting. He was there too and found himself attracted to the online me and for some reason something made me meet him in a pub for a drink. The rest is history. Others may not consider this destiny, but I do.
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