Recently it’s been difficult to show a positive view of arousal after 50. Not just difficult to see but also to achieve. It is challenging to accept that your body is ageing and that it fails to respond as it once did. Then sometimes something miraculous occurs.Suddenly your partner makes you aroused in a way you’d forgotten was possible.

In case you wonder, I have a piece of silicone in my clit piercing because I was expecting to have surgery this year, which won’t now happen. But people I recommend it. Not pretty but very comfortable and also easily part of a programme of arousal!

My external labia, with clitoris showing. I have a piercing which has a little silicone bar.