The photo for this week’s wicked Wednesday feels very poignant and so I am using it here. After 6 years of writing my blog, of sometimes living a lie but mostly waiting I will soon be free. A butterfly about to be released, to fly away.
My husband was unfaithful to me within 2 or 3 years of our marriage. A relationship that continued for 7 years. After I found out and came to terms with the reality. After also the decision was made to continue with the marriage I made a deal with myself. Essentially I decided if, by the time my son (who was about 3 or 4 at the time) had grown up, I wasn’t happy, I would leave the marriage. For many years I forgot about it and just lived in the moment, it wasn’t as if we were always unhappy because we weren’t.
But the memories sat on my shoulder and every now and then something happened or words were spoken that reminded me. And one day soon after my son, now grown up, left for university I realised that the time had come.
I felt trapped. The good daughter wife and mother who realised she was living a lie.
Today, about 7 years later and 5 since I was first unfaithful to my husband I am preparing to break free. At last.
If I had my life over again I would do things differently, maybe.
I stayed in the marriage because I thought it was the right thing for my son and because I was scared. It took me years to build the confidence to explore and to become the person I am. Maybe too, the person I needed to be with also had to be in the right place, right time.
Within a month I will have moved from my home of 27 years. I will be with my lover, my Master, the man I want to be with. In 9 weeks I will have left my job and have some space, to be me.
Meantime there is a lot to do. Life is going to be busy and tiring. I am probably going to struggle to cope and will probably say and do things that might later be regretted. Though I hope not.
It is time for me to be me. The future beckons and if I just flap my wings enough I will be that butterfly with the wind in her wings. Ready to land in my new home. With Master.
This came up on my repeat posts on Twitter today. Looking back defining moment
You have done what you thought was right for you and for your son, and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe if you have left the marriage earlier you might never have met your Master. We don’t know why life goes the way it does… I too think I would have done things differently if I could do it over, but I regret nothing, as it has made me the person I am today. The same with you. All that you have done, all your decisions, your hardship, your laughs, your tears, everything has made you to the lovely person you are today 🙂
Thank you Marie. As is often the case you are right xxx
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