Blogging A-Z 2018: B

This is the third year that I have participated in Blogging A-Z. This year i am going to try to make my topics a little more mainstream. They will, however clearly link to kink and may on occasion be NSFW.

B is for Blogging

In a couple of weeks I will reach the 6th anniversary of my lifestyle blog. Starting out on blogger as World of joolz, I must have sensed that I would need to record my journey. At that time I was dipping a toe into D/s and exploring sex in a way I had only dreamed of.

To begin with it was my own personal journal and wasn’t read by anyone but myself. Good job too, since my writing style left a lot to be desired. Reading back,  posts are often short and something of a brain dump. They are also short on detail about what really went on, including my feelings. But gradually as I read around my new subject matter, explored and commented on other blogs, things changed. My writing improved as I engaged with others and while I still wrote for myself, there was definitely a benefit in knowing others were reading too.

The blog has helped me express myself through difficult times, like telling my husband about my affair with S. Writing helped me to express my feelings, deal with the confusion and decide what I should do next. The relationship with S ended and very soon after I met the man I now call my Master. He is my lover and also my partner. I told him about the blog early in our relationship, without realising he would go back and read every post I had ever written. This helped him learn about me and also directed his questioning about what I wanted from our sex and kink life.

Over the past couple of years I have engaged with the sex blogging community much more. To the extent that I have met many of those who now read my blog. I enjoy using the prompts from memes such as Wicked Wednesday and Submissive Coffee Club. Sinful Sunday has helped us to develop a more creative side through photography. But in the main what I write and post here is personal, for me and for us. Of course I don’t publish all of the gory details of my life, but I think that I am more open than most.  This is because I want to be able to use the blog to record our continuing journey.

6 Replies to “Blogging A-Z 2018: B”

  1. It’s good to have a starting point, I think, and to put pieces of progress in black and white. Something concrete to look back on is helpful, not only in seeing how far we’ve come, but also in recognizing who we’ve become. It’s hard to recognize changes over time when we see our ‘same’ selves in the mirror every day. But having our thoughts and experiences / feelings and responses in writing, such that we can see our own pasts without the rose-tinting of the present’s lens, is a wonderful way to get to know ourselves better.

    I recently read through several of my early blog posts (2012), and I found them to be incredibly eye-opening. I was able to see where my head was, remember what my emotions were, revisit some of the details of experiences – sexy, humorous, or otherwise – with both compassion for who I once was and open-eyed awareness of how I’ve changed.

    I think it’s great that you’ve kept a journal of your journey, and it’s doubly great that your partner took the time (and still does, I’m assuming) to read it in its entirety as a way to get to know you. <3

  2. Thanks for the comment Mrs F, you are so right about looking back and seeing where you were and how much you have changed. Yes, he still reads everything and sometimes goes back to look at old stuff too. I am glad I have been able to be open with him about it as it has been a useful tool for us both at times. I must remember that when I wonder about continuing because I fear I have nothing of value to say!

  3. OH you know what this means right? HAppy BLOGVersary to us BOTH!

    I think i’m 2 days away from mine. It’s lovely to see how much you’ve developed in terms of your person and writing style!

    IT’s been an awesome ride! Here’s to more years!

  4. Yes it has and I love to see how you and your blog have developed too. I’m sure we will be around for years to come, shocking the young and innocent (let’s hope). xx

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