Important Questions: TMI Tuesday 30 May 2017

Important Questions

1. If you are on facebook, when was the last time you had to “unfriend” someone and why?

I unfriended Master’s ex after one final messenger altercation and the feeling that she was watching our every mood. Not sure now why I didn’t do it before. He has also unfriended her.

2. What are you addicted to?

Probably alcohol. I love the taste of it and am probably drinking far too much; I must cut back. Otherwise my phone, twitter, Facebook and all of that stuff.

3. What are the first 3 things you do every morning?

Apart from go to the loo and have a shower, they would be check my phone, make coffee and open my laptop!

4. How lucky are you and why?

I consider myself very lucky to have found new love after my long marriage. Lucky too that I have discovered the submissive in myself and that my new love is now my Master. Lucky that my son is happy and settled and that I am able to enjoy life to the full.

5. What is one thing you’re embarrassed to admit you want to try?

Not sure that I am embarrassed about anything, certainly not here on my blog.

Bonus: Are you proud of what you are doing?

I am proud that I am able to live my life the way I wish. however I wish I could be more open about the nature of our relationship to others.


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Still learning

This week I realised I am still learning about how to write for a blog. I recently offered to help Marie from Rebel’s Notes with the roundup and judging of Wicked Wednesday. She took me up on the offer and this week it was my turn; Marie will publish my top 3 today. The Wicked Wednesday prompt for the following week is posted on Saturday, along with the roundup and top 3 from the previous week.

I have taken part in a number of the regular memes that circulate the sex and kink related blog world, including Wicked Wednesday. They are a great way to focus on a topic, to share with a wider audience and to find new blogs to read. My own preference is posts about real lived experience and also opinion about life, love, sex and kink. Probably because those are the kinds of blog posts I write. Fiction doesn’t come easily to me as a writer and although I read plenty of fictional books of all genres I tend not to do so on blogs. I am not sure why, but when I browse blogs and find short stories I often pass by. That however might change now.

2517 and all that

This week’s prompt was about life 500 years hence in 2517. I fully intended to write a post and wanted to try some fiction, I even started the post. My thoughts centred around the idea that maybe our lives would have become simpler. Technology has advanced beyond recognition in the past 100 years. We use it to communicate, to make life easier, as labour saving devices, and to fight wars. What if communication such as we know it had led to war on such a scale never before seen? What if a re-evaluation of our lives and existence had taken place. I planned to link this to the idea of greater tolerance and the idea that I should be able to live openly as a slave if I wish.

But events in Manchester on Monday kind of derailed my thoughts. Suddenly I found it almost impossible to write about what was really my own utopia. Death, injury, fear, hurt and suffering were at the forefront of my thoughts and so I abandoned my post. I am sorry I did, but not sorry that I still had to read everyone else’s blogs.

Reviewing and judging

There were 12 posts to review, but when I began the judging process I had already read 3 or 4. Of course I needed to go back and refresh my memory and then read the rest. I was impressed by the imagination and creativity that had gone into creating stories around the prompt. Not everyone’s writing was about life in 2517, but a significant number were.

There is such an amazing talent of sex bloggers who write fiction, and to think I had been skipping over their posts. There were also a number of off topic tales and personal reflective posts. The task of judging a top 3 was much harder than I imagined – I chose my top 7 and went to bed late on Thursday night. Friday morning I quickly re-read those and came up with my top 3, in no order. Went out to run a few errands and came back with a clear order.

These were my personal choice, no one else. I fully expect that if another person reviewed the same 12 posts they might come up with a different top 3 or in a different order. But I took my role in this seriously and stand by my own list.

Final thoughts

Most of us blog for fun, a few manage to make money doing it. But what I have learned is that we do take the business of writing seriously. Some of us find writing easier than others, but there are some seriously talented people out there. I feel privileged to have been invited to judge Wicked Wednesday. It took a whole evening and a little more from my life, but it was worth it.  I take my hat off (well would if I were wearing one) to people like Marie who run memes like this every week. They put an enormous amount of work into helping people like me blog. I encourage anyone reading this who blogs to take part.

2 Responses to Still learning

  1. I love your words. I try hard not to be turned on by what you say, Sometimes I fail, but I believe that’s OK. <3

  2. Julie says:

    I think that’s fine. Thanks for visiting

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slave stuff

There was a time when pretty much all posts on this blog were written in the third person. Each sentence that might have used the pronoun ‘I’ began instead with ‘this girl’ or ‘she’. This blog was about a personal journey, about being trained and about learning how to please and serve Master. Somewhere along the line, that part has been lost from this place.Never writing in the first person became challenging. There were occasions that I seemed more appropriate and gradually I replaced she. This girl, the slave was lost from the conversation.

But perhaps it is time to bring her back. Perhaps she needs that aspect of her life to get back to the slave she wants and needs to be. There is, deep within this slave a yearning to reclaim the structure and the rules. To focus back on what was agreed at the beginning of our relationship and part of that is acknowledging that this slave has no specific name. That she should refer to herself not as I but to recognise her status as an object or possession.

This girl

He always refers to her as girl. She is without a name, she is His slave. She is good at complying with the requirement to refer to herself in this way during sex or a scene. Less so at other times. The blasé way in which this girl approaches her slavery has led to other lapses in behaviour and often in forgetting her place and role.

These include wearing underwear (it is often cold and anyway the middle-aged body needs support), not wearing the butt plug, not asking if clothing is required. This list could go on.

But there is no chance that this girl has completely forgotten that she is His slave.

Being His slave always

He is Master. She rarely thinks or refers to him as anything else. This girl thinks about Him constantly and does consider whether the actions she takes are something he would be happy with. This happens most often at work, a place where he is never with her. She often takes time to reflect and wonder what he would say if He had been present.

There are times each day when she touches the tangible symbols of slavery. The collar, the nipple jewellery and sometimes even the clitoral hood piercing. They serve as a constant physical reminder a way of grounding one’s self.

When Master and slave are out together there are rules that are always followed. He keeps control of any tickets or passes. He takes total control in restaurants, though there is often discussion about choices. Plus at any time there is ambiguity, or the potential for disagreement it is His word that is final.

Master is Master and slave is the slave. But this slave feels that now is the time to back to basics. Back to what was agreed at the beginning and back to blogging for its original purpose.

Going forward there will be more posts where the pronoun ‘I’ is not used.

2 Responses to slave stuff

  1. Slut says:

    This is a beautiful post that brought goosebumps to the skin of THIS slave. You are such an inspiration.

  2. Julie says:

    Thank you so much. This something that has been in the thoughts of this slave for a while. It has been too easy to drift along.

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The realities of life

It had been a busy week. Work was as frenetic as usual, and by Friday followed with daughterly responsibilities. When did it seem a good idea to become part of the social committee at my slimming club? After all, Friday afternoons with mum are stressful enough.

But by the evening the half a pound gain was behind me. Mum had been relatively restrained in Marks and Spencer’s. The traffic was kind. And yet.

Master showed me the new swing in the play room. Yes a swing. Thinking about it, he had made mention of the purchase the previous week. Somehow though, that knowledge had disappeared into the recess of my brain.

Kneeling before him as he demonstrated it’s finer points I sucked his cock and all seemed good.

But naked, exposed, sitting on the seat, I wasn’t sure who I was. Whether I was worthy of him. His slave or an imposter?

I wanted to love and enjoy his new toy but something made me want to curl up somewhere with a bottle of wine instead. Trying to distract me and turn me on, he licked my pussy, squeezed my nipples and stroked my clitoris. He used the words that usually make me melt; the ones that reaffirm our M/s dynamic. My head responded but something held me back. My body was unresponsive, he said otherwise but my brain told me so.

Memories of sex with my ex flooded my brain. Perhaps I am the frigid person he had exclaimed me to be. Maybe this past 3 years has been a dream?

Climbing down at Master’s request, we lay naked on the bed. We talked and we held each other.   I don’t know the reason for my sudden freak out but know I am not frigid. I am the sexy woman Master loves, I turn him on, and please him. We love each other, and he certainly makes me horny. In the future we will have fun on that swing.

We moved on to christen the new jacuzzi bath. To have fun and to enjoy each other’s bodies. We drank sparkling wine together and talked about what might have been wrong. I came to the conclusion that if the bath had happened first events may have taken a different course.

I wanted so much to have a wonderful tale to tell about the swing and to have photos for Sinful Sunday. But rather than looking back on these memories as a failure I know that our love is not just about kink it is about being there for each other. About recognising when we need reassurance from the other.

The story about the swing in the playroom is still to be told along with the corresponding pictures. Just watch this space.

Kink of the week: Jeans

This morning this photo popped up on my Facebook timeline. A photo taken by Master, a year ago as I walked up the steps to board a plane. He posted it later and tagged me with the caption ‘Rear of the day’. I was amused and just a little flattered because a public acknowledgment that he finds me attractive appeals. Some may find this sexist, but coming from him it is something I like. I like the way I look in a pair of well fitting jeans, and love the way it shows off the contours of my bottom. At the same time, I like the way that they hold my wobbly bits in place. They give the impression I have a firmer, perhaps more youthful body than I have. 

Do I feel sexy in them though? Well yes in a way because if I feel good and think I look good to others. But do I feel  more sexy in jeans than in any other well fitting trousers or perhaps a short skirt? Then no. This is partly because I don’t think Master looks at it that way. He likes the look and feel of my bottom when it is on display in that way, but also likes to see my legs, or my cleavage or my bare back. He loves leather, and I have a feeling that he would find leather trousers more appealing than jeans. However, I am not convinced that they would be very forgiving to my figure.

Having said that, he likes me naked too. With everything hanging out. But naked is not a good look walking up the stairs to get on a plane and I don’t think anyone needs to see me naked on Facebook. Though plenty have seen me naked here.

2 Responses to Kink of the week: Jeans

  1. Molly says:

    I can totally see why your bottom inspired him to take this picture. What a perfectly shapely vision it is.


  2. Bee says:

    I don’t find his actions sexist at all, just the actions of someone who finds you attractive. I’ve been known to do something similar with my partner.

    Like you it makes me feel attractive and wanted when he makes those compliments.

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Bath time

The new bathroom is complete and so this weekend we have christened the whirlpool bath. Time to relax and unwind with a bottle of bubbles in the bubbles. Bath time indeed.

Don’t you just love the colour of the tiles and the very pretty mirror which has bluetooth speakers.

Sinful Sunday

17 Responses to Bath time

  1. SilverDom says:

    Yes, it was the mirror that caught my eye. ?

  2. Lovely to relax in bath together!

    Rebel xox

  3. Mrs Fever says:

    Bathing together is one of my favorite things to do with a lover.

    You look lovely. Relaxed and bubbly. ?

  4. What fun and you look lovely x

  5. Molly says:

    Oh this looks like heaven to me


  6. I love having a bath with my partner. I bet a whirlpool bath is fantastic! A lovely photo that reminds me of some wonderful times I’ve had in baths.
    Aurora x

  7. It’s been eons since I’ve had a bath. That looks like such a relaxing soak.

  8. Diogenes says:

    I quite like the fact that I look like a preying mantis enwrapping you. But I am trying to forget that the female mantis eats the male after copulation.

  9. Julie says:

    I am not sure there is an answer to that!

  10. Bee says:

    One of those rare relaxing moments…wonderful.

  11. Lovely image! Very nice work on the bathroom. I have yet to take a bath with my lover, but I do enjoy a good hot tub soak and shower together.

  12. Exposing40 says:

    Ooh, wonderful!!!

  13. Love this! Especially the tangle of legs in the bath.

  14. Jaime says:

    That’s a cheerful record of what was obviously a wonderful time.

    And it has you in it, as well as mirrors, so it’s hot!

    Great picture!

  15. I love baths together – hope you had lots of fun x Oh and bluetooth <3 Music and chilled baths ftw x

  16. Julie says:

    Ha ha, thanks!

  17. Julie says:

    Music in the bathroom is amazing ?

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TMI Tuesday

Life: dating, your body and more

1. What period of your life was the happiest? Why?

I am probably happier now than I have been at any time in my life. I enjoy my job, for all it is stressful. Master is a wonderful man who knows exactly what I need, he makes me happy and I love to serve him. We are able to travel and to have lots of fun times. My son is happy in his relationship and my ex is finally moving on.

2. True or False. If you want a successful date, take charge–take the lead. Why?

I guess it depends who the date is with. I hate to be out with someone who is indecisive. This has, in the past led me to want to take control. These days though, I prefer that I don’t take charge, which is just as well!

3. True or false: Males are aggressive and assertive, and women are nurturing. Explain your answer.

False. There are aggressive women and there are nurturing men and vice versa. These traits are not related to gender but to personality, and learned behaviours.

4. Is your body keeping you from a good sex life? How so?

My body is trying to do just that. The menopause is means that there are times when I am not as wet as I used to get and I can get sore during penetrative sex. Also, as previously documented I seem to have developed a problem with pain during vaginal sex. We are working through these things though and don’t let it get in the way of a good time.

5. Smiles. Do you have a sexy smile that is different from your regular smile. Post a pic of your sexy smile or describe it for us?

Oh, I am sure I have a different smile when I am giving Master the come on, or else during sex and play. I’ll have to ask him about it!

Bonus: May is Masturbation Month. Which of these is your best benefit from masturbating:
a. helps you to relax and/or fall asleep I don’t masturbate regularly any more. But this would be one of the best reasons to do so. Especially when I am all alone.
b. boosts self-esteem
c. combats erectile dysfunction
d. helps you know what feels good so you can tell your sex partner


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

2 Responses to TMI Tuesday

  1. Nero says:

    Nice answers, #4 in particular aligns with something that has just occurred to me about my situation (which I haven’t blogged on yet)

  2. I completely agree with you on number 3!

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One of those update posts

The strain of blogging every nearly every day for the Blogging A-Z challenge left me needing a break. I am so enthusiastic at the start of these memes but time, bad planning and the challenge of obscure words can get in the way.

But it’s time to move on and get back to reality. The February Photofest and Blogging A-Z Challenges are behind me. Time to move on through the year, develop some discipline and post spontaneously. It’s 2 months since Eroticon and I still haven’t got around to making the changes I said I would. No space so far for fiction, and generally my creative juices are struggling to emerge.

Life around here has been pretty full on, what with work, family and social stuff. Add a holiday into the mix and stir in Master’s new bathroom* and you get the picture. Not that any of this is an excuse, since over all I am pretty lazy when not doing any of the above. *N.B He has people in to fit the bathroom, though I helped out in choosing accessories. There are still towels, bathmats and a little cupboard to be considered.

We are very aware of the need to instil a bit more fun and play into our lives. Plus of course sex. The joy of spending more time together this past couple of weeks has included time discussing how to inject energy into our relationship. Plus to rediscover things like anal sex, which we haven’t done for a while.

This week he bought me a leather bra. Something I can wear under my clothing or else on its own around the house. The leather is beautifully soft and comfortable to wear. Master has a real fetish for leather gear, well he just has a real fetish in reality! Summer is on the way, though it isn’t too warm around these parts yet. But the opportunities to get out an about and to have some fun are emerging. Plus he has promised more dungeon time for my birthday in August.

Lots to look forward to and hopefully the opportunity for fun and games on top of normal life.

Summer here we come!


Sinful Sunday




Framed by the bed. The secret dungeon had ceiling mirrors. Perfect for this shot.

20 Responses to Framed

  1. SilverDom says:

    Lovely! Although the click-through doesn’t work. :/

  2. WOW a mirror on the ceiling so sexy. I would love one in my bedroom.

  3. Love it!

  4. Julie says:

    Thanks, I have fixed it. Trying to be too clever!

  5. Ooooh I love ceiling mirrors!
    Great image!

    Rebel xox

  6. Ooh what fun – I’d love to have a ceiling mirror x

  7. Molly says:

    Ohhh a ceiling mirror, I love the idea of one of those


  8. Julie says:

    Me too!

  9. Penny says:

    I agree with Molly–a ceiling mirror seems so cool! Plus the photo opportunities would be amazing ?

  10. I have always fantasized about a ceiling mirror. Lovely image!

  11. That’s a beautiful picture – simple but has a great atmosphere

  12. Julie says:

    Thank you for the lovely comments.

  13. Again, another one where theyre is a voyeuristic quality that makes me think I’m viewing you through a window, with you totally unaware of my presence.

    Great shot.


  14. Love the red backdrop. Framed it so nicely

  15. Wow this image is stunning! I really do love it so much! You found the perfect place to take a frame prompted photo.
    Aurora x

  16. Bee says:

    This is amazing, I love the though of ceiling mirrors!

  17. Nice shot… makes me think of Marilyn.

  18. Jaime says:

    Beautiful frame! And colour! A lovely image!

  19. Adam says:

    Think you have managed to perfectly capture why so many people want a ceiling mirror. The bed looks comfy too. Great image.

  20. Exposing40 says:

    This is a great shot! I love that it looks like you’re being look down on and photographed rather than looking up to photography yourself! Ooh, your name just flashed up on my screen – we’re commenting on each other’s posts at the exact same time! Xx

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