What’s in a name?

Last weekend Master and His girl were chatting about the way they refer to each other. Master asked if she remembered Him calling her by her given name, she couldn’t think of a day when that had happened.

To Him, she is girl or this girl. Often during sex, as previously mentioned she is bitch or cunt. Since she has never been anyone else’s girl or indeed bitch or cunt, she loves this fact.

Early on in the relationship, when it was still D/s, or even before D/s was confirmed for that matter, Master requested that this girl referred to herself as such. At the time it felt like it would be a challenge to comply to His wishes. He said He felt it would help her with her submission and this turned out to be true. By avoiding reference to ‘I’ and thinking and speaking of herself as this girl subtle changes seemed to occur. She started off by using the third person in her blog, writing is often easier than saying something out loud. Over a short time the thinking and writing became second nature so that the girl felt she could easily refer to herself as such to others. Speaking to Master too, it became ever easier to call herself this girl.

Roll forward almost two years and this girl isn’t always perfect at remembering not to use the work ‘I’ during normal conversation and Master doesn’t always insist on it. However it is still a requirement and most of the time it is second nature. He is Master and this girl is just that. What is more He is her Master and she is His girl.

Postscript Sept 2018

Since I moved in with Master he has more frequently referred to me as ‘this girl’. This is a change. Over the past couple of years we had stopped using third person terms, other than in the bedroom. But the clear direction now is to pick this up again. We both want to develop our M/s relationship into one that is 24/7. Using the third person to refer to myself in his company is one of the ways we will likely to this. Watch this space. 

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