Since I haven’t yet done the 30 days of kink, which seems to be a bit different from 30 days of submission, and indeed 30 days of me, I thought I would give it a go. Unlike others, I don’t have a draft folder filled with finished and unfinished posts which I can use during times such as this – when I am away, busy or just short of ideas. So here goes.
Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What Parts of BDSM Interest You? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self.
Submissive, with no desire to be Dominant or switch. The main part of BDSM to me is the idea that I can give up control, that I can be owned by another and that I can serve that other in the way that He wants. I say wants, but actually it is the fact that Master gets so much from my submission that provides much of the power. He finds the fact He has so much control over me empowering, invigorating and a complete turn on. That in turn feeds my submission in a way that I couldn’t even have envisaged a year ago. I see now that this is a journey for me and for us and that the submission is developing and growing just as His Dominance is. If you had suggested to me before I met Master that I was a slave, that I would embrace being His slave so readily I probably would have fallen about laughing. The realisation that this isn’t a game, isn’t just for the bedroom etc has been a profound one.
After the D/s part then probably a key thing would be bondage and the discipline that goes with that. There is something completely liberating about being restrained, even though I often find some of that restraint painful and uncomfortable, it helps in reinforcing the submissive side of me. That part that I fight against and then find so fulfilling as it engulfs me. After that it is the pain. I am not a massive pain slut……..well it depends on the pain and the situation. So yes to pain with submission and bondage. Its all a kind of ever decreasing circular thing for me – submission – restraint and discipline – pain – submission and so on.