TMI Tuesday – Sexpectations



1. What are some challenges related to your sex life?

The main things for us are about time – we are mainly together at the weekend, plus the fact that I am often tired after my working week. The best times are when I am feeling rested and relaxed. Maybe that is part of the reason why much of our sex takes place in the morning. Saturday and Sunday mornings are great for us.

2. Is quality or quantity most important?

Definitely quality. There is so much more to our relationship than pure sex. Of course, much of our interaction at other times has a sexual overtone. The power dynamic over rides all and I crave that more than anything else. But that too involves Him touching me, or me Him. It involves pain and pleasure. It involves worship of him. Sex is involved in all of that for us.

3. How much sex is enough?

Exactly what happens now is good.

4. I want to have more play time.

Balancing the time for normal life including time out enjoying ourselves, plus downtime alongside sex and play is tricky when you don’t live together. Given a choice though, more play time has got to be the thing.

5. I would like to attempt new sex positions such as _____ .

Hmmm not sure what positions, that are possible for people of our age that we haven’t tried.
Not a position, but maybe the chance for sex in the open air would be fun.

6. I would like to stop doing _____ sex position.

Stop? No, I definitely don’t intend to stop anything!

7. To me foreplay means an intimacy and closeness. 

Foreplay can be the beginning, middle and end. It can mean the beginning of something which He controls or occasionally it is something I am in control of. Whichever way, after years where foreplay was never present, it is ever present for us in our relationship. 

8. Something I think about a lot related to sex is His Dominance and my submission. Sex and submission for me are often (though not always) intertwined. Last Friday evening it was standing room only in the pub. I stood sipping my drink when suddenly His hands were squeezing my crotch and then  my tits. He does so with such expert swiftness that no one notices a thing. I am then left wet and throbbing and wishing we were heading home soon……

Bonus: Tell us something you love about your sex life.
nothing about it is predictable. I love that so much!


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Masturbation

Sometimes inspiration comes out of the blue. I am really enjoying February Photofest, but I put myself in the mix and got involved (as is my way) without thinking things through. Planning some kink related photos for your blog for a week is pretty easy, especially when some have already been taken in the recent past. But continuing for 28 days is a challenge. The added challenge is that this is not a photo blog, it is about me and my submissive journey and about my relationship with my Master.

Today’s photo – my 17th – is one I took of myself in May last year when Master was away in the USA. It was taken on my camera, using the timer rather than using the mobile. I think this is something I need to think about for the remaining 11 days of this challenge.

hub sub in Phx commented on my last post and led me to his most recent entry about masturbation within relationships. My comment there was about my current relationship, but that has led me to think about what went before.

It was pretty usual for hubby and I to masturbate. But we never did so in front of each other.

When I look back I can see that things were pretty sad. I generally shied away from contact with him, sex was not fulfilling for either of us. He really never worked out what I needed and anyway I am not sure that was the point for him. While he wanted us both to enjoy sex, he wanted to cum and do it quickly, sex wasn’t about mutual enjoyment especially as he really didn’t know how to make me cum. This meant there was little in the way of foreplay and often the whole thing could last as long as an advert break on TV.

Since neither of us were satisfied, we both masturbated, just not with or near each other. I was rarely satisfied, no matter how often I made my self cum and I suspect it was the same for him.

Things are different in this relationship. I am sure Master masturbates when I am not there, though perhaps not really often (I am sure He will correct me if I am wrong),  I do not.  I don’t think I have anything to worry about even if He masturbated a lot, since our sex life is good.

Masturbation is allowed, but I should ask permission to cum (this can be done retrospectively) since my orgasms belong to Him not to me. But I really don’t feel the need.

I have learned the joy of mutual masturbation and of watching each other.

Each relationship is different but I am pretty sure, if you feel the need to masturbate frequently, without the other person present, when married or in a serious relationship (whether you actually do so or not), then something is wrong.

So to the photo – girl masturbating over a mirror for Her Master who was 6000 miles away at the time.