Gradually things with hubby are getting resolved. He hasn’t spent a night here since early December, doesn’t disturb me if he comes in the house early in the morning and I am now doing little in the way of washing etc. for him.
But he does still come in every morning to collect sandwiches and his coffee mug, and in the evening to shower and change after work. I do still wash his work clothes, and I continue to help him financially.
Sometimes I feel like I am allowing this whole thing to take longer than it should. I should just tell him that since this marriage is over he should move out of the house properly and then we should just sell the house and move on.
Of course, we have discussed our options regarding our separation, but I know he is stalling. I am a person who avoids confrontation if I can, and have to build up to another attempt at doing so.
I know that week by week I am making progress towards my goal and that I will get to where I need to be.
Luckily I have Master’s support and for that I am more grateful than I can say.
Great advice was told to me. There will be a point that strength takes over fear (the fear of confrontation) and you will just tell him it's time to move out. It's not easy to take that final plunge. You will though – when the time is right.
You are so right. Just finding that time is the thing….