Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
Our relationship is not about me providing any kind of service for Him other than that i am there to serve His cock. Our time together is precious; there isn’t nearly enough of it. So most of that time is spent doing the things that have previously been described in this series of posts – those things have a high level of sexual content and / or involve me submitting myself to being humiliated. So i guess that f there is service it is sexual.
I would happily submit to elements of serving my Sir, but he has said many times that He doesn’t want me to prepare him food or drink, clear up after him or to provide any kind of grooming task. Luna KM has a great article on the meaning behind service here, and it is clear from reading it that this is not me and it is not what He wants.
Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?
There is no financial submission going on here. We don’t live together, we have no financial reliance on each other and i doubt that will ever be part of any arrangement we have. We try to share costs, for the things we buy for the things we do. I buy most of the clothes i will wear for the purpose of our relationship. But Sir also buys me / us things. We also share the costs of our meetings – food, drink, accommodation.
In my relationship with hubby, i manage the finances. It is not anything dominant or submissive, it is just that he can’t really be bothered to do it and someone has to take some kind of control. Decisions about how money is spent are made jointly, but i have the control in how that takes place. It makes spending money on a corset or a train ticket very easy. Mind you i work, earn a good salary and the money i spend is mine to do with as i wish.
i have always worked, was never a stay at home mum, so have never been completely dependent financially on anyone. i like to know that i can spend money (or not ) if i chose and that no one can tell me i shouldn’t do so. As for handing over my salary to another in the name of submission; can’t imagine it happening. i love to submit and to show my vulnerability in the bedroom (and outside) but i worry about people who put themselves into a vulnerable position in this way. Who become so reliant on another that they have to ask for money for everything. That isn’t and will never be me.