30 Days of Submission – Days 8 and 9

Today, i am writing about two days of submission in one. This is mainly because i have little to write on the first and also because it seems a good idea to get through these a bit more quickly.

Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?

So far my relationship with Sir has been mainly based on things other than spanking. That is not to say that there hasn’t been spanking, because there has. We haven’t really got into that side yet. Maybe we will in the near future, who knows? i have to admit i prefer other elements of the things we do (kneeling before him, being tied or restrained, nipple clamps, humiliation to name a few), but am not averse to being spanked, whether it is with His hand of some other implement.

Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? 

i like structure and rules. it is what can make this different from other relationships and certainly from my hubby. With him there are no rules as such, just custom and practice, some of it less than exciting. i like that Sir can suddenly introduce a rule, and that rules can change. When i arrive at Sir’s house i kneel before him, i am collared, maybe cuffed, maybe nipple clamps are applied and immediately i am expected to suck his cock. This is a ritual i love. Sir likes me to wear glasses rather than contacts, i am always happy to comply (i wear contacts too much anyway). Sir says i am to wear stockings and not tights, he says i am not to wear knickers (i don’t always comply with these all of the time, but am doing so increasingly. 

I would like more structure and more rules, but to be realistic, monitoring these would be more time consuming and take effort and i am not sure either of us is so inclined. Maybe it is something we will discuss after He has read this.

There are limits, but we are exploring those as we go. i am fairly sure that we both share similar ideas on what those limits are. We have a safeword, but i haven’t come close to using it since if i say that i am not sure about something then we pause or stop. Trust is the name of the game and that’s what we have. 

5 thoughts on “30 Days of Submission – Days 8 and 9”

  1. It's so interesting to me to hear that you're more interested in the other elements of domination, but are open to spanking. I'm coming at it from the opposite end– I was only into spanking, but now that we explore more, I'm getting interested in the other aspects too. 🙂

  2. I wonder if you got spanked more if you would start wanting it more, only because that is how it worked for me. It seems like the more I get spanked the more I want to be spanked. I don't quite understand but it's fun (when it's not punishment) so I just go with it. I love your ritual when you first arrive at the house.

  3. I love the fact that we all come at this from different places, but are willing to explore. It is some of the spanking stories / experiences that i read that make me want more. Plus of course that i find that being spanked has an effect on me that i wouldn't have expected!

    I agree about safe words abby.

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