TMI Tuesday

Life: dating, your body and more

1. What period of your life was the happiest? Why?

I am probably happier now than I have been at any time in my life. I enjoy my job, for all it is stressful. Master is a wonderful man who knows exactly what I need, he makes me happy and I love to serve him. We are able to travel and to have lots of fun times. My son is happy in his relationship and my ex is finally moving on.

2. True or False. If you want a successful date, take charge–take the lead. Why?

I guess it depends who the date is with. I hate to be out with someone who is indecisive. This has, in the past led me to want to take control. These days though, I prefer that I don’t take charge, which is just as well!

3. True or false: Males are aggressive and assertive, and women are nurturing. Explain your answer.

False. There are aggressive women and there are nurturing men and vice versa. These traits are not related to gender but to personality, and learned behaviours.

4. Is your body keeping you from a good sex life? How so?

My body is trying to do just that. The menopause is means that there are times when I am not as wet as I used to get and I can get sore during penetrative sex. Also, as previously documented I seem to have developed a problem with pain during vaginal sex. We are working through these things though and don’t let it get in the way of a good time.

5. Smiles. Do you have a sexy smile that is different from your regular smile. Post a pic of your sexy smile or describe it for us?

Oh, I am sure I have a different smile when I am giving Master the come on, or else during sex and play. I’ll have to ask him about it!

Bonus: May is Masturbation Month. Which of these is your best benefit from masturbating:
a. helps you to relax and/or fall asleep I don’t masturbate regularly any more. But this would be one of the best reasons to do so. Especially when I am all alone.
b. boosts self-esteem
c. combats erectile dysfunction
d. helps you know what feels good so you can tell your sex partner


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Happy TMI Tuesday!

Q is for………

  • Questions:
  • Found on tumblr, I give you these:

  • 1:When did you lose your virginity?
  • I guess I was quite late, since I was 18, especially since it was with someone who I had been going out with for a couple of years. I later married him. Alarm bells anyone?
  • 2:Rough sex or soft sex?
  • Not either, but both.
  • 3:Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes? 
  • Er, only if you include bondage, the odd spanking or flogging, and the fact that we live an M/s lifestyle to name a thing or 3.
  • 4:Weirdest place you’ve had sex?
  • A picnic table…….
  • 5:Favourite sex position?
  • On top of Master is something of a favourite for us both. He loves to feel his properties tits and to be able to touch her generally!
  • 6:Do you like to be dominant or submissive?
  • submissive 🙂
  • 7:Have you ever had any one night stands?
  • Nope, I don’t think I am really a one night stand kind of a girl
  • 8:Sex on the bed, couch or the floor?
  • We have done all 3. The floor or couch for the purposes of need and lust. Bed for comfort
  • 9:Have you ever had sex in a public place?
  • Yep, some woods and a picnic table with S
  • 10:Have you ever been caught masturbating?
  • Not that I can think of. These days there is no one to catch me, and Master loves to watch
  • 11:What does your favourite sexy underwear look like?
  • I am so happy that Master prefers me naked!
  • 12:How often do you have sex?
  • It depends on how much we are together and what else is going on, a couple of times a week. We don’t live together though…..
  • 13:Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with?
  • Master, of course…..
  • 14:Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?
I love both. This wasn’t always the case, at one time I wasn’t sure I liked either. How times change.
  • 15:Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?
  • Once when S and I were at his friend’s house, they turned up. To be fair, the friend had been in hospital with a brain injury and had forgotten that he had given the keys to S. He arrived home with his teenage daughters for a weekend visit!
  • 16:A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex?
  • Madonna, Erotica is a favourite of ours.
  • 17:A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex?
  • Not sure, but my favourite song of always is Angels, Robbie Williams
  • 18:Are you into dressing up for sex?
  • Yes, if it involves a leather harness or something
  • 19:Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower?
  • Probably the shower
  • 20:If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?
  • Master of course, who else
  • 21:Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you?
  • 3 or 4, yes. I was an event that happened. I would do it again, if Master wanted such a thing, but wouldn’t go looking.
  • 22:Do you/would you use sex toys?
  • They have an important place, both in terms of what Master likes to do to / with me during play, but also in masturbating.
  • 23:Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture?
  • Occasionally
  • 24:Would you have sex with your best friend?
  • Master is probably my best friend these days, so yes.
  • 25:Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink)
  • Sex in the morning then we will have coffee, but if at night, just sleep.
  • 26:Something that will never fail to get you horny?
  • Master playing with his slave – tits, clit, or whatever. Him playing with himself while looking at porn. The butt plug.
  • 27:Early morning sex or late night sex?
  • either, but early morning is more common.
  • 28:Favourite body part on the opposite sex?
  • Eyes, smile, cock……
  • 29:Favourite body part on the same sex?
  • A pair of shapely legs.
  • 30:Do you watch porn?
Yes, I find porn much more interesting and sexy than I would have imagined.


Meme time

A meme from PK via DelFonte

1. Yourself: happy

2. Your boyfriend/girlfriend (spouse): showering

3. Your hair: wet

4. Your mother: happier

5. Your father: gone

6. Your favorite item: iPhone

7. Your dream last night: unclear

8. Your favorite drink: wine

9. Your dream car: home

10. The room you are in: sunny

11. Your ex: elsewhere

12. Your fear: loss

13. What you want to be in 10 years? happy

14. Who you hung out with last night?  Master

15. What you’re not? tired

16. Muffins: avoiding

17. One of your wish list items: fun

18. Time: lunch

19. The last thing you did: shower

20. What you are wearing: clothes

21. Your favorite weather: sunny

22. Your favorite book: lots

23. The last thing you ate: dinner

24. Your life: busy

25. Your mood: cheerful

26. Your best friend: far

27. What are you thinking about right now? coffee

28. Your car: home

29. What are you doing at the moment? thinking

30. Your summer: fun

31. Your relationship status: separated

32. What is on your TV? off

33. What is the weather like? sunny

34. When is the last time you laughed? earlier

35. Your favorite color? Purple

Have you ever?

I just love it when I find new blogs to read, especially when they are original, informative and well written. Where the people involved in the blog feel real and what’s more, it turns out I have been missing out on something. All of the above is true here, this meme is from Ami, whose blog I hadn’t visited until today, so here goes:

Have you ever, ever, ever in your long-legged life…

1  Stood on top of a very high mountain or cliff, looking down at countryside, or out to sea?

Oh yes, my favourite would be a house where I stayed in Bodega bay, Northern California. It sat way above the beach, facing the Pacific Ocean. A beautiful place where you could sit upon the deck or in the hot tub and enjoy the view. Wonderful!

2  Lay on your back on a hot summer’s night, listening to the crickets chirping, and watching the satellites as they chase each other across the heavens?

A few times when younger we went camping and that was when I can remember lying back looking at the stars and listening to the wildlife, including crickets.

3  Skinny-dipped at midnight?

During the mid 80’s ex-hubby and I took a holiday to Cyprus. For probably the only time in our marriage, we hooked up with several other couples, hanging out with them in the evenings and having amazing fun. One of the things I did (though hubby didn’t since he doesn’t swim) was to get in the pool late at night, naked. We were all in our 20’s, in new relationships having a wonderful time. We were also drunk!

4  Intentionally or inadvertently swum with sharks?

Nope. There was one holiday where it might have happened, but a freak storm arrived and we got wet on the boat without even getting into the sea!

5  Broken a bone in your body?

Luckily no

6  Driven a car at speeds in excess of 120 mph? (yes, I know it’s illegal, but the motorway was very quiet at the time)

I don’t think I have been in a car that goes that fast!

7  Played “Pooh Sticks”?

Yes, with my son and his cousins; Great fun.

8  Run in a “Pancake” race?

At my son’s primary school, yes. I wasn’t the winner!

9  Had your eyelashes dyed?


10  Ridden a horse naked?

I have rarely ridden a horse and never naked.

11  Punted down the River Cam? (or any other river)

I have watched others punt on the river Cam, but haven’t done it myself. It may well be more fun to watch the mess other’s get into!

12  Played tennis in a short white tennis skirt whilst wearing minimal knickers?

Sadly no.

13  Helped an inebriated husband up the stairs at 2 in the morning?

Too many times yes. I also helped him up after he fell out of the car, out of a hotel bath he has fallen into while going to the toilet. He wasn’t a frequent drinker, but when he did, he never knew where to draw the line!

14  Been too scared to get out of a swimming pool whilst on holiday, due to a very large Doberman sitting on the edge watching you? (no-one was around at the time)

I don’t go to those kind of places!

15  Sat in a deckchair snoozing happily whilst the sound of leather on willow echoes distantly in your ears?

Oh yes, my dad and brothers played cricket every weekend growing up. The days when you could snooze in the heat of the sun were rare sadly. My memories are more about huddling under a blanket!

16  Taken a ride on the Maid of the Mist under the Niagara Falls?

No, but I would love to do that!

17  Climbed up something – rockface, climbing wall, rope in a sports hall, long ladder, tree – and been too scared witless to climb back down?
Yes, and sadly I was ru

Yes, and sadly I was rubbish.


18  Been too liberal with the “Eau de Cologne” which then ran down where it shouldn’t, which in turn caused you to hop madly around and rip your knickers off and throw them as far from you as you could?

Don’t think so, no

19  Made snow angels?

Yes, with my son when he was little.

20  Lost a shoe in a ploughed field on a moonlight walk home after a party?

I was chair of the PTA and remember one night where ex-hubby went off home because he hated that we had to stay behind to clear up. I walked back with some other parents across a ploughed, muddy field. I didn’t lose a shoe, but I arrived home caked in mud with my heels ruined.

21  Shrieked loudly, due to being spanked hard, and frightened away a visitor/s who turned and ran back down your drive – and now you never will know who was about to knock on your door. And you are desperately hoping they will never ask…

No, but Master is sure that I have aroused interest in the neighbours at both our houses. Not just though spanking, but as a result of sex.

A meme about Him

This meme is from DelFonte at A place of Fancies. Lets hope this girl has got it right.

1  He’s sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen?

Cricket. Sadly He won’t be happy since the people on TV are being completely stupid, and don’t understand the real people who watch cricket and are generally pretty uneducated.

2  You’re out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad?

A simple french dressing would be great.

3  The most striking thing about his physical appearance?

Since He isn’t tall, and has no overtly striking features it has to be His cock. Oh yes ladies, it is a force to be reckoned with!

4  You go out to eat and have a drink; what does he order?

If it is a pub, then beer, proper real  beer and if a restaurant, then usually red wine.

5  Where did he go to high school?
A posh place where really clever people go. I doubt they even knew how clever He really was.
6  What size shoes does he wear?

9,  i think

7  If he were to collect anything, what would it be?

This is for real, He collects books and CDs, but this is not for the sake of collecting but because He needs those things.

8  What is his favourite type of sandwich?

Cheese and pickle i would imagine

9  What would he eat every day if he could?

Probably ice cream or trifle

10  What is his favourite cereal?

Nope, He is no cereal man. He is a man for lunch and dinner.

11  What would he never wear?


12  What is his favourite sports team?

A cricket team, but right now, sadly, since they play terribly and have a terrible captain (in His view), this is not England. But in the future it will be.

13  Who did he vote for in the last presidential election?

He is not American so didn’t vote in that election.

14  Who is his best friend?

This girl is His best friend and He is hers.

15  What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t do?

Say bratty stuff. At the same time He loves that this girl speaks her mind.

16  What is his heritage?

He is English and there is no more to be said.

17  You bake him a cake for his birthday; what kind?

He would be happy with any cake but it needs to be accompanied with ice cream.

18  Did he play sports in high school?

Yep, cricket

19  What could he spend hours doing?

Watching cricket, listening to music, reading or generally researching things

20  What is one unique talent he has?

He knows more than a human should ever really know.

Meme time

Around here we are in a little lull before the next bit of action – In two weeks we go off on our next trip. We will be visiting Northern Spain and France. Things are generally calm in all areas of life, though work is busy. Consequently, any opportunity for a blog topic is gratefully accepted.

Today, a meme from Hermoine’s Heart

What can you see from your window?

From where I sit I can see into the garden at the back of my house. I really need to spend more time weeding out there, but I have made a start. I have cleared and swept the patio area and have planted some pots; mainly geraniums and petunias. I also have roses and some other shubs and trees to look at. I love these lighter evenings.

Choose 5 words to describe yesterday

Work, busy, frustrating, planting, Skype

The most memorable death in your lifetime other than family

Princess Diana. My son came into the bedroom to tell me that there was a message at the bottom of the screen on cartoon network telling you to retune to a news channel. I did and felt completely shocked.

Tell us something that would surprise people about you

The fact that I am now Master’s slave would certainly do that!!

What was the last conversation you had with someone

At the end of a meeting this afternoon I stopped to chat with two colleagues about a problem we are having work wise. Master is out tonight and I don’t expect to speak to anyone till I get into the office tomorrow. That kind of thing might have worried me in the past, but now I am perfectly happy about it.

Tell us about a kindness from someone

Last year, a few weeks  after my dad had passed away Master took me away for a weekend. But it wasn’t just any old weekend away, we had the most luxurious room I could ever hope for  including jacuzzi and sauna. Drinking champagne in the massive jacuzzi bath with Master was just amazing. He said that He felt I needed a special weekend away, and I certainly got it (and that’s without the joy of being hogtied!)

What was the last song you heard

Upside Down, by Paloma Faith. Quite apt, since so many times over the past year I have felt just that. Things now are settling and I feel I can enjoy life again.

What is the most expensive thing you have bought in the past month

A couple of really nice, but reasonably expensive dresses for my summer work wardrobe. My job demands I dress at least a little smartly with a hint of power (very apt for a slave girl).

What three things would you take to a desert island?

Does Master count as a thing? For this He does! Secondly a book and thirdly another book. I don’t really mind (within reason which books), but can’t imagine not having books with me.

What are your plans for the weekend?

I asked Master this question last night. He said He planned to hog tie, fuck and spank me. What more could a girl want?

Map of human sexuality – Something fun

Find out where I’ve journeyed
on the Map of Human Sexuality!
Or get your own here!


I found this through someone’s Fetlife profile. Click on the “map of human sexuality” hyperlink to see my map, and then you can do your own. Great fun. A chance to think about the things you like, those you would love to try and those that you definitely never ever would and luckily you have a Master who wouldn’t want to either!

Random facts

I am essentially short on new ideas for posts right now, partly due to the busy nature of my life currently  – a constant juggle of work, family and enjoying myself with Master, leaves little time or energy for writing. I know that this will pass (it always does) and soon enough I will have the burning desire to share something meaningful here.

Meanwhile, taking a lead from tori, I give you 12 random facts about me, 6 vanilla and 6 kinky:
  • I have a constant battle with my weight, when I set my mind to it I can stick to whatever diet I am following, but my mind keeps wandering….
  • I love travelling and seeing new places. I have never been a beach kind of girl, my skin is too pale and freckly, and I struggle to sit still for long without getting bored. At last though I am with someone who doesn’t want to spend all day on the beach or by a pool.
  • I am much better at putting things off than getting them done. Having said that, putting other things off helps get blog posts done. That’s why I haven’t been posting here so much – I have been far too busy to procrastinate so the blog suffers instead.
  • The best thing about commuting to work by train, which I have been doing for the past 20 months or so, is that I can spend much more time reading. I often have a few books on the go, both fiction and non fiction.
  • I would like to live abroad, maybe in France when I have done with working. I need to improve my French though, something I am trying to do.
  • It is 35 years this October coming since I started my nursing career. I might not work clinically any more, but I use the knowledge I gained as a bedside nurse every day.
  • Pain is not a large part of our dynamic, ours is more about power exchange and control. To think I used to hate being told what to do – still do depending on who is doing the telling.
  • I get a thrill from wearing as few clothes as possible. I love it when Master slips His hand under my skirt to feel my bare bottom when we are out.
  • The best things ever for me have been my piercings. They have enhanced our sex life in a way neither of us expected.
  • Being restrained is both calming and erotic. Spreader bar, cuffs, whatever. I just love them.
  • We have spoken lots about going to a club to play. I hope that happens soon.
  • Message to Master – I am ready for that collar…..
Now I just have to get my finger out and write a regular post or two.

Back – Real Neat Blog Award

The holiday was marvellous; Two whole weeks of time together in the beautiful Spanish region of Andalusia. We explored the countryside, climbed hills, walked miles (often we walked miles, uphill on cobbles, or so it felt). We drove through wonderful landscape, and through beautiful towns (often up or down steep hills, often on cobbles). We ate some wonderful food and drank beer and wine. We experienced Easter festival of Samana Santa as the Spanish do. There was some kink, and photos were taken. Some of these will be shared in the coming days.

But before that, and in a useful stalling way, I accept the Real Neat Blog award from Fiona

Like Fiona, I am not one for rules, so here is the logo


And here are Fiona’s questions:

1)  What scares you most about TTWD, and conversely what are you most gratified about your journey through TTWD?

I don’t feel scared about TTWD, as I completely trust my Master to keep me safe and to lead me through my journey in the best way for us both. I feel gratified by just that. I have met a man who wants much out of life that I do, we are exploring our kinks together and having so much fun along the way.

2)  What is your favorite tradition surrounding your birthday (or if you don’t have one – around a holiday that you like)?

All traditions around all occasions have changed over the past few years. My son has grown up, there have been breakups, death and just a change in the way we want to do things. I love to see my son on my birthday, or to enjoy it in some way with him. But last year’s birthday when Master took me out for lunch and then we spent a kinky afternoon together was probably the best for a long time.

3)  If you’re home alone, is there music playing, a television on, or quite in your home?

At the moment I have the TV on, but it is really just background. I am avoiding the forthcoming general election here and the programme is about the stories surrounding family heirlooms. Later, I will probably have some music on, while I eat dinner.

4)  What’s your favorite book, movie and song?

Book – these change depending on what I am doing. right now, I am reading a book about Queen Isobella of Spain. Generally my favourites would be either something historical, factual or perhaps a crime story.

Movie – I am not a real film buff, but have enjoyed some of the older films I have seen with Master over the last year. Recently we saw some Marx Brother films which were such fun. I had forgotten how great they were.

Music – I like Robbie Williams, Coldplay, Keane – anything by any of them is good.
5)  If you were 18, found your blog and read it, what would your reaction be?

I would be amazed, perhaps intrigued, but probably wouldn’t recognise my future self.
6)  What qualities, do you think, is your significant other is most attracted to in you?

I think he enjoys me physically, and he likes that my kinks match so well to his. But I also think he likes that I am open to new ideas, am keen to learn and to become the person he wants and needs.
7)  What is your favorite toy to make you cum?  What’s a fantasy of yours using that toy?

I love Master’s gadgets but actually the most amazing thing is when he rubs his cock against my clit piercing and uses that to make me cum.


I found a new blogger via Abby, today. Ok so I am late to Han Van Meegeren’s party, but better late than never.

These questions have appeared on his site, and been answered by Abby and others. Here goes:

  • Kissed a girl? Once, in a kissing a girl sense. Lots of times in a kissing your friends and family kind of way
  • Kissed a boy? Oh yes
  • Had sex in public? In a place that is public, but not in public.
  • What’s your religion? Officially Church of England, but I like the spirituality side of things and the music rather than religion itself.
  • What does your URL mean? Joolz was a name I was given when I was younger, and when thinking about this blog and a new kind of lifestyle it seemed right. Now though, I am not sure it quite fits. But it is what my blog is called.
  • Reason you joined blogland? I have blogged for years. Firstly about work and life generally and then here. My blogs have always been about me being able to express myself. A way of recording my thoughts and feelings. 
  • Do you have any nicknames? Jools / Joolz when younger and recently to some people. Master calls me girl (is that a nickname, or just His name for me?)
  • Do you like bubble bath? Yes, very much. I don’t have a bath often these days, as a shower is quick and convenient. Now a bubble bath is a luxury!
  • Kissed in the rain? Oh yes
  • Dyed your hair? I have been doing just that while writing this. A good point to go wash it off!

So, several hours have gone by and on with the questions:

  • Soup of salad? Soup in winter, preferably home made, the rest of the time, salad
  • Vegetable or meat? I love vegetables, but couldn’t give up meat…
  • Go out drinking? Mainly when having dinner, but since I met Master, I have been out to more bars and pubs than for a long time.
  • Smoke cigarettes? Never
  • Smoke weed? I have lived a sheltered life
  • Do any hard drugs? I am no good with prescription drugs so I doubt I could handle anything recreational
  • Have you had sex today? No, sadly…..
  • Have you ever fallen asleep in someone’s arms? Yes, quite a few times lately.
  • The relationship between you and the person you last texted? He is my Master.
  • Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes? Yes, actually they have. 
  • Skipped homework to play a video game? Occasionally….
  • Tried to commit suicide? No 
  • The last time you felt broken? Last year, July….
  • Had to lie to EVERYONE abut how you felt? Yes, last July…
  • Do you have a boyfriend / girlfriend? Boy….well more a man to be frank…..
  • Do you have long hair or short? Shorter than it was, and I like it.
  • First thing you notice in a girl? Her sense of dress
  • Do you sing in the shower? Sometimes, but Master would win on that one!
  • Do you dance in the car? Only when alone
  • Where were you yesterday? Woke up with Master, spent the afternoon with my parents and slept alone at home.
  • Ever used a bow and arrow? Tried once when a child, I was rubbish!
  • Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer? Probably at one of my brothers’ weddings. Does that count. If wedding photos don’t count then when I was at school!
  • Do you think musicals are cheesy? No, and I saw one on Saturday which was fantastic – Guys and Dolls!
  • Is Christmas stressful? Yes when my mother is involved!
  • Favourite type of fruit pie? Apple
  • Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? A nurse and I became one.
  • Do you believe in ghosts? Kind of
  • Ever have a Deja-vu feeling? Yes, definitely.
  • Take a vitamin daily? No time for that kind of thing. Fresh fruit, veg etc is better.
  • Wear slippers? In winter. Otherwise bare feet.
  • Wear a bath robe? Sometimes.
  • What do you wear to bed? Nothing.
  • Do you want to get married? Still legally married and no thanks, never again.
  • Can you curl your tongue? Yes
  • How many relationships have you had? Three
  • How can I win your heart? You can’t, I am happy as I am for now.
  • What makes a great relationship? Communication, trust and honesty. That and the ability to laugh and not take yourselves too seriously.
  • Shy or open? Shy with new people and strangers, but extroverted with people I know. Having said that, very few know the real me.
  • Religious or non-religious? I am not religious.