Getting to the breast of it

This weeks Food For Thought Friday prompt is about boobs, the questions posed are:
For guys and girls who like girls – what is it that you like about boobs? Is there an ideal shape or size?
For girls – how do you feel about how you feel about your “girls”? Are you happy with them? Have you always been?
For everyone – do you think the female “chest” has been over sexualised?
Like most girls I couldn’t wait to get my first bra, to feel grown up, I guess I was about 12 or 13. I don’t know when I first realised that breasts were something sexual, something a boy would want to touch. As a teenager I had small pert boobs, no bigger than a B cup, I did observe however that the area around my nipples, the areola were quite large. I loved wearing tops that meant you could get away with wearing no bra, enjoying the feel of it without quite knowing what that was telling me.After childbirth I was lucky to still keep most of the pertness of my breasts, but even luckier that my boobs kept some of the size that developed during pregnancy and breastfeeding. My size now is 36D, though I suspect if I lose much more weight I might drop a size. They are still a handful (or two) and though gravity is beginning to take it’s toll, I am still able to get away with going braless. This is just as well as Master prefers me with no bra, particularly in the summer.

Two years ago, I had my nipples pierced and really love the fact I can wear different jewellery in them. I am also enjoying the nipple stretching that I have recently embarked on, though at the moment once a week is all I can manage, as I need to let them recover in between. It arouses me that Master loves my tits so much, and I enjoy the feeling of his fingers pulling and pinching them Over time, my nipples have become much more sensitive and so I am able to orgasm from nipple play alone. I really love my whole breasts being played with too, for me it adds to the arousal.

I would definitely say I am much more happy with the way my breasts are now than when I was younger. But part of that is to do with being with a man who appreciates my body and who isn’t trying to get me to change it (i.e. get slimmer etc). A man who likes to see me show myself to him and who isn’t worried if other men are looking at me too. I feel proud that I have a good pair of tits even at the age of 53.

I love to see other women’s breasts, and though I am completely straight do look at pictures of naked women. I prefer the real thing to silicone, and prefer more natural poses rather than those taken for professional photoshoots. But can appreciate a good pair of boobs on another women, bare or covered. I think that if a woman chooses to show her tits for money, then that is her business. I think that if a woman wants to promote her tits as something then men or other women want to look at then that is ok too. But to be honest, they are just a part of the body, given one that can be sexually arousing to both owner and person looking or feeling. I don’t really understand why some feminist and other groups have become so exercised about the use of women’s breasts in magazines and other media. So long as the woman is old enough and has the capacity to know her own mind and that the choice to show her boobs to others is hers then I really don’t see what the problem is.

Discussing sex

This is the first time that I have written a post for food for thought Friday

The question is: are you comfortable discussing sex with your partner? Do you have the confidence to ask for what you like/want?

So, here is the thing. Having spent a large part of my adult life unhappy or unwilling to discuss my sexual needs with a partner, I now find myself in a relationship that not only am I able to do just that, but also it is expected.

Every sexual encounter involves my being expected to describe what is happening and what I need to happen. I also speak about my personal needs as His slave, sexually and as a human being. For me, nothing is secret any more. I am expected to speak about everything about my life – family, friends, work, ex, just everything. Against expectations, this is actually liberating.

This isn’t a one way street though, actually this relationship is such that I want to express my sexual needs to the man who owns me, my Master.

So, how did I get to this place? How did I become this person, rather than someone who felt unable to speak about her sexual needs?

The key is being in the right relationship with the right person. for too long, that wasn’t the case, I was with a man with whom I wasn’t compatible. But more than that it is about being prepared to listen, to try to help that other person discover their sexuality, their needs as an adult human being.  It is about time and space. Time to talk about everything and anything. Time to explore each other’s bodies. To touch and feel, to kiss and to find out that actually pain is also important.

But, giving some thought to the person | was when I met ex-hubby and indeed to him, it is also about taking on board the experiences of life, accepting what wasn’t right, rejoicing what worked previously and making the best of what life has to off right now.

We are people in our 50’s and if we can’t discuss sex now, perhaps we never will. Happily we can and we do.