TMI Tuesday – 5th December 2017

Sexy Specifics

Liz Lemon and Jack Donaghy. from “30 Rock” https://www.nbc.com/30-rock

1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?

I love women’s breasts. The shape of them, the hint of a nipple, a decent cleavage. Lovely!

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?

Feet generally, not too keen on anyone’s feet to be honest! 

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?

Yes. My ex had an affair early in our marriage. I didn’t like it and I regret that I did it to him at the end. I wouldn’t do it again nor would I want to be the other woman either. 

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?

I guess I am more overtly romantic. He says he isn’t but does some lovely things for me. But that hasn’t stretched to flowers – he claims it is due to his hay fever! 

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?

No. I don’t really have close work relationships these days. My life outside is too important to me.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?

I believe so, yes. We talk to each other, we like each other, we are happy together. We have plenty of sex and occasionally shout at each other. All of these things are pretty healthy in my book.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse. I don’t think people describe their co-workers as such here in the UK. But some people do spend stupid amounts of time at work. I don’t do that and have no problem arriving and leaving on time!

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TMI Tuesday – 28 November 2017

Spice it up!

1. Why should you have sex on a first date?Because sometimes life is to short not to. For S and me it was right. I needed to find out if there was more to me than being a suburban housewife. If I really was a desirable women, a slut. Plus I really needed sex, deprived. For him, well hopefully it was about him desiring me. With Master we both wanted sex on our first date but despite desire for each other let common sense take over. Indeed on our next date we had sex. The rest is history.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?I have massive hangups. Even now I that I know there will be no unexpected ejaculation I have problems. But I love the taste of him, the smell and the comfort in sucking him. So actually I don’t dislike giving oral sex, rather I love it.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.The tongue is important. With your tongue you can both explore and taste. Plus what about his tongue exploring me? That is just the best thing!

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?Daddy all the time. It isn’t the sugar thing I need but just him. Though we don’t go for the daddy thing. 

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?Feeling and looking stressed and angsty. For him, I am being bratty. He can tell that I need him to pay attention to me and I need to do the same for him. It is a two way avenue. 

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?

Both are good.  But in the main we fuck. We really do love each other though!

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Short story for TMI Tuesday

For this week’s TMI Tuesday we have been asked to write a short story using a series of words. So, here goes:

Slowly she came too. Aware  of her dry mouth and throbbing temple. That last cocktail, she thought!. Opening her eyes she turned her head towards the clock; 8 o’clock already. Sunday though so it was ok. Closing her eyes again she listened to the sound of the rain outside. Driving, torrential, relentless rain.

Silence. Wait a minute, that wasn’t rain but the sound of the shower. She opened her eyes just as a man appeared from the ensuite. He leaned and kissed her “morning gorgeous” he smiled.

Suddenly memories flooded back. That last cocktail, with him……David. The discussion about Albert Einstein and whether people today would view him  as a genius or eccentric mad man. The subsequent kisses, the taxi to her place. Making out on the sofa, then bed.

She smiled and responded to his searching kiss,  his hand brushed her left breast and she felt the slickness of arousal forming between her legs. Another memory – olive oil. He had massaged her tits with oil. All in all a crazy night.

At that point her tummy let out an almighty sound. “hungry?” he asked with a grin. She nodded.” You have a shower, I’ll fix breakfast”.

Dragging herself out of bed she glanced briefly at her flushed face in the closet mirror and headed for the bathroom.

15 minutes later, she found him in the kitchen, beating eggs. Moving towards her, egg beater in hand he grinned. “How about an aperitif”?

Without another thought she dropped her robe to the floor, bent over just in time to feel the impact.

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TMI Tuesday – 19 September 2017

1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do

I am not sure that I would go to a therapist for any kind of relationship support. I tried it when my marriage was ending and I was struggling to get him to accept the inevitable. I discovered that I had everything I wanted worked out in my head. What I also discovered was that me having counselling wouldn’t make him cope any better. He was the one needing the help and that couldn’t happen unless he pitched up. Having said that, if I needed therapy for a mental health problem I would take it if I felt it would help. Can’t see it happening right now though.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

I suspect that at different times, sex can be any of the above for him. He likes to have sex with me, he says I turn him on. He finds me exciting! But there are times when sex is a great relief for stress and tension. There’s no doubt it is also a way to show love, though sex for us is usually a bit more raunchy than that.

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

We have the kind of relationship where we tell each other everything. 3 years ago, I agreed to be his slave and so being open comes with the territory. Anyway I want to tell him. Keeping secrets was part of the reason my relationship with hubby failed and I don’t intend that to happen again. We are open with each other, so it’s a two way street.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

For us it is about being willing and able to speak about our feelings for each other including deeper emotions. Also it is about being able to tell the other about your fantasies and fears too. I can’t say this is always easy, but generally we both know when the other has something they need to say to the other.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

I don’t really want weekends to myself anymore. Weekends are when we spend time together. I guess if I had to I would and if I did, perhaps I would do something we wouldn’t do together. Maybe a spa weekend or a trip to somewhere hot where I could sun bathe. But I know that it wouldn’t be the same doing anything without him there.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

I don’t think there is any chance I would want to buy something he would hate. Since I don’t think I would like it either. I buy things I like, but tend to wonder if he would like them too.

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TMI Tuesday – 29 August 2017

1. Have you ever had sex in the changing room of a store?

No, I can’t say I have and it probably isn’t on my list of places to have sex in. I am more likely to go for an open space rather than a small cubicle!

2. Ever blindfolded your partner for sex or have you been blindfolded during sex?

I’ve been blindfolded on several occasions. I love it when I don’t need to think about what is going on, but to just experience it. Being blindfolded enhances other senses, of touch, smell, sound. 

3. Who out there likes to be tied up for sex?

I have frequently been tied up for play, which also involves some kind of sex act. When it comes to the actual sex though, it is good to be able to move. Having said that, if he wants me tied up for sex, then I am. There is something weirdly freeing when I am restrained. No point in resisting, and so I just don’t. Coupled with being blindfolded, is perfect in my book.

4. Shower sex…yea or nay? Why?

I love having a shower together and getting all soapy and wet, then seeing what comes next. So oh yes. 

5. Ever done a striptease for a lover?

Yes, in my younger days. I dare say, I could easily do so again.

Bonus: What are you thinking?

That I would like to get down to some of this right now. But right now Master is an hour or so away, and I have my mother here. Still, something good to look forward to.

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TMI Tuesday – Sex on the Brain

Sex on the Brain

1. Is a weird “sex face/orgasm face” a total deal-breaker?

I am of the opinion that once you get to the point of orgasm, then your face is likely to demonstrate true emotions much more than anything you say. If someone’s expression is a little weird at that point then so be it! Anyway who is paying attention to that kind of thing unless they are on film and that is something else entirely.

2. Do you enjoy having your balls played with (or playing with balls)?

I have no balls, but enjoy playing with Masters balls during sex.

3. Have you ever hooked-up with somebody based on their proximity to your smartphone location (Tinder, GRINDR, etc)?

Nope. Never used Tinder, though my son met his fiancé that way. We did meet online however. I guess the fact we met in a chatroom makes us old school!

4. You have some free-time in the workday–blow job or intercourse? (BJ can be giving or receiving).

Gosh, this has never happened. I guess giving a blog job would be easier, quicker and less likely to affect my ability to get through the rest of the day……..

5. How long after having sex with a new partner do you have to wait before falling asleep?

I think that when we first had sex we both drifted off afterwards. Mind you it was a little more than straight sex. That was 3.5 years ago so must qualify in the new bracket.

Bonus: What’s the dirtiest or sexiest text message you’ve ever received?

In the early days some of his texts to me included instructions about what to wear or do. That hasn’t happened for a while. Most texts these days are direct and functional!

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Important Questions: TMI Tuesday 30 May 2017

Important Questions

1. If you are on facebook, when was the last time you had to “unfriend” someone and why?

I unfriended Master’s ex after one final messenger altercation and the feeling that she was watching our every mood. Not sure now why I didn’t do it before. He has also unfriended her.

2. What are you addicted to?

Probably alcohol. I love the taste of it and am probably drinking far too much; I must cut back. Otherwise my phone, twitter, Facebook and all of that stuff.

3. What are the first 3 things you do every morning?

Apart from go to the loo and have a shower, they would be check my phone, make coffee and open my laptop!

4. How lucky are you and why?

I consider myself very lucky to have found new love after my long marriage. Lucky too that I have discovered the submissive in myself and that my new love is now my Master. Lucky that my son is happy and settled and that I am able to enjoy life to the full.

5. What is one thing you’re embarrassed to admit you want to try?

Not sure that I am embarrassed about anything, certainly not here on my blog.

Bonus: Are you proud of what you are doing?

I am proud that I am able to live my life the way I wish. however I wish I could be more open about the nature of our relationship to others.

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TMI Tuesday

Life: dating, your body and more

1. What period of your life was the happiest? Why?

I am probably happier now than I have been at any time in my life. I enjoy my job, for all it is stressful. Master is a wonderful man who knows exactly what I need, he makes me happy and I love to serve him. We are able to travel and to have lots of fun times. My son is happy in his relationship and my ex is finally moving on.

2. True or False. If you want a successful date, take charge–take the lead. Why?

I guess it depends who the date is with. I hate to be out with someone who is indecisive. This has, in the past led me to want to take control. These days though, I prefer that I don’t take charge, which is just as well!

3. True or false: Males are aggressive and assertive, and women are nurturing. Explain your answer.

False. There are aggressive women and there are nurturing men and vice versa. These traits are not related to gender but to personality, and learned behaviours.

4. Is your body keeping you from a good sex life? How so?

My body is trying to do just that. The menopause is means that there are times when I am not as wet as I used to get and I can get sore during penetrative sex. Also, as previously documented I seem to have developed a problem with pain during vaginal sex. We are working through these things though and don’t let it get in the way of a good time.

5. Smiles. Do you have a sexy smile that is different from your regular smile. Post a pic of your sexy smile or describe it for us?

Oh, I am sure I have a different smile when I am giving Master the come on, or else during sex and play. I’ll have to ask him about it!

Bonus: May is Masturbation Month. Which of these is your best benefit from masturbating:
a. helps you to relax and/or fall asleep I don’t masturbate regularly any more. But this would be one of the best reasons to do so. Especially when I am all alone.
b. boosts self-esteem
c. combats erectile dysfunction
d. helps you know what feels good so you can tell your sex partner

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Interesting Questions

Something interesting this way comes– this week’s TMI Tuesday.

Very interesting questions

1. What is the first thing you do when you wake up?

During the working week I make coffee or tea (depending on how I feel and what kind of day is ahead) and breakfast. At weekends we get up, showered and dressed (maybe after sex) and then have coffee. There is currently no particular routine, which is fine by me.
2. What is the last thing you do before you go to sleep?

Take my clothes off and clean my teeth. Master has a much better moisturising routine than I do, which is why when we are 70 he will look 50 and I will look 90!
3. Are you a giver or taker?

A giver. My whole life has been about giving to others. Right now at work, people are busy taking everything they can from me. I am work in progress there! Because contrary to what people might think my M/s life is gives me exactly what I need. This is because while I serve He gives back to me in terms of structure, discipline and rules. Most of all though He offers me the chance to be myself, to feel safe and loved.
4. If you had to give yourself a new name, what would it be?

This girl. This is my name as far as Master is concerned. I would love to live in a world where our there was acceptance of my status as His slave and understood. For many people this might seem odd. I seem dominant and in control while all of the time I need reassurance, guidance and control. What I hate is that I might seem to alternate between some kind of scary dominant person and a door mat. My preference would be to just be allowed to be myself.
5. A world-famous chef ask you to make dinner, what would you make?

I think that you are better playing to your strengths. My nephews and nieces  consider my lasagne second to none, so perhaps that is the place to go.

Bonus: What’s the worst advice you ever received?

People who advised me to accept what I have and not to rock the boat. Then developed amnesia. We all deserve happiness and shouldn’t have to wait until we are in our 50’s!

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TMI Tuesday – Dates, Mates & Relationships

 

Dates, Mates & Relationships

1. Which of these are you most often guilty of in a relationship:
a. jealousyI am not sure any of these are really me, but this is the most likely. Worrying about what went before and whether the other person was better at something than me. As if it is important. 
b. not apologizing
c. not keeping your word
d. guilt trips

2. Which of the following behaviors would annoy you most in a partner.
a. fishing for compliments by verbalizing self-doubt – My ex did and does this all of the time. Mind you he did b and d too. 
b. passive-aggressive behavior
c. usually forgets important dates i.e., birthday, anniversary
d. making you feel guilty when spending time with friends

3. Consider you are looking for a mate, rank these traits in order of importance, with 1 being most important, and 7 being least important.
___ Kindness 2
___ Honesty 1
___ Ambitious 7
___ Confidence 5
___ Reliable 3
___ Assertive 6
___ Sense of Humor 4

4. Score! You exchanged numbers with a hottie. Now you: (pick one)
a. Wait for a week, see if that person calls you first. Strange as it seems, I have never been in this situation and don’t expect to be. Hoping not to play the dating game again. 
b. Call the next day if not sooner.
c. Call and text incessantly. Let them know they’ve made an impression.
d. You’d never call. What if you get rejected?

5. How did you handle your last relationship break up?
a. You’ve never been in a relationship before. The timing’s never been right.
b. You went out and got drunk every night, until you forgot everything.
c. You went out on a massive amount of date, even with people you knew you had no interest, making sure to date a new face every night.
d. You felt bad and cried, but bounced back in a couple of days.

None of the above. I played around online and found myself the right man.

Bonus: Would you take a holiday all by yourself, at the ‘spur of the moment’? Why or Why not? Where would you go? I did, I went off to Florence for a long weekend on my own. Things were difficult at home and I wanted to get away. The two men who might have come with me (not together) chose not to. It made me realise that there is no need to wait around for someone to do what you want and need. Just get on and do it yourself. Now I have no need of a holiday alone, but I am not frightened of it. 

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