TMI Tuesday – Dates, Mates & Relationships


Dates, Mates & Relationships

1. Which of these are you most often guilty of in a relationship:
a. jealousyI am not sure any of these are really me, but this is the most likely. Worrying about what went before and whether the other person was better at something than me. As if it is important. 
b. not apologizing
c. not keeping your word
d. guilt trips

2. Which of the following behaviors would annoy you most in a partner.
a. fishing for compliments by verbalizing self-doubt – My ex did and does this all of the time. Mind you he did b and d too. 
b. passive-aggressive behavior
c. usually forgets important dates i.e., birthday, anniversary
d. making you feel guilty when spending time with friends

3. Consider you are looking for a mate, rank these traits in order of importance, with 1 being most important, and 7 being least important.
___ Kindness 2
___ Honesty 1
___ Ambitious 7
___ Confidence 5
___ Reliable 3
___ Assertive 6
___ Sense of Humor 4

4. Score! You exchanged numbers with a hottie. Now you: (pick one)
a. Wait for a week, see if that person calls you first. Strange as it seems, I have never been in this situation and don’t expect to be. Hoping not to play the dating game again. 
b. Call the next day if not sooner.
c. Call and text incessantly. Let them know they’ve made an impression.
d. You’d never call. What if you get rejected?

5. How did you handle your last relationship break up?
a. You’ve never been in a relationship before. The timing’s never been right.
b. You went out and got drunk every night, until you forgot everything.
c. You went out on a massive amount of date, even with people you knew you had no interest, making sure to date a new face every night.
d. You felt bad and cried, but bounced back in a couple of days.

None of the above. I played around online and found myself the right man.

Bonus: Would you take a holiday all by yourself, at the ‘spur of the moment’? Why or Why not? Where would you go? I did, I went off to Florence for a long weekend on my own. Things were difficult at home and I wanted to get away. The two men who might have come with me (not together) chose not to. It made me realise that there is no need to wait around for someone to do what you want and need. Just get on and do it yourself. Now I have no need of a holiday alone, but I am not frightened of it. 


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TMI Tuesday – 30th August 2016

It’s the last TMI Tuesday for the month of August. Did you know August was originally named Sextilis (‘sixth’). In 8 B.C. Sextilis was renamed August in honor of Roman Emperor Augustus. BTW…August or Sextilis was the sixth month of the year in the ancient Roman 10-month calendar.

Now for more about August:
1. In the Philippines today is National Heroes Day. Who is your hero? (You can name up to 3). Why?
The only person who I could call my hero right now is Master. He has helped me find the most important things in life and is busy assisting me in getting myself into a position so we can live together. Right now I don’t need anything extra.
2. August is Romance Awareness Month. What have you done to enhance romance in your life? Or what have you become aware of or discovered with regards to romance?
After our holiday to Sicily we realised we needed to get our M/s and kinky selves back on track. The holiday was wonderful, but very busy. Added to that we are in the process of getting my house ready to sell and his for me to be able to live with him in. We spend some of our time reconnecting each week and that helps the romantic side of our life too.
3. In the month of August there is National Raspberry Creme Day, National Ice Cream Sandwich Day, and National Chocolate Chip Cookie Day. Which day are you most likely to celebrate and how would you celebrate?
I really eat very few puddings / sweets / ice creams right now since I am trying to lose weight. But if pushed I would go for the Raspberry cream.
4. August 13 was International Left-hander’s Day. Who out there is a lefty? Anyone ambidextrous?
I am left handed but have learned to be ambidextrous since to be honest the world is made for right handed people. I think that our use of the internet, keyboards, mice and smart phones have helped. The best way to tell though is how people use their cutlery.
5. In the U.K. today is a late summer Bank Holiday. What are you doing (or did you do) with your “free” time?
Yep it was a bank holiday weekend. We went to see Allegro which is being shown here for the first time, found an Italian market over the road for some lunch. We ate wonderful tapas and we spent time trying to fix up my garden ready for my house sale later this month. Painting a fence is completed more easily if you are ambidextrous!
Bonus: Post a pic from your mobile phone that was taken in this month of August. Explain the photo…or not🙂
My favourite photo from August was this one, taken in France at the beginning of the month.

TMI Tuesday – July 19th 2016

My first TMI for a while, but glad to join in and share
1. Hi there. Tell us about your job and what you do?
I work in the UK health service. My job is about improving the quality and value for money of maternity services. I work with Doctors, midwives and families who use the service so while I no longer provide healthcare services myself, I am close to them. It is less stressful and definitely easier on the body than when I was nursing.
2. What piece of advice would you give to a co-worker?
Remember who we are here for – not ourselves but those who use the services. But remember we are not indispensable, there is nothing in our job that can’t be left till tomorrow.
3. What 2 pieces of advice would you give to a new blogger?
Decide what your blog is about and who you are writing for.  Write for yourself and not an audience, and the followers will turn up and contribute. Visit other blogs and comment there, become part of the ‘community’
4. What 1 piece of advice would you give to a veteran blogger–someone blogging for more than 3 years?
Consider the purpose of your blog, at the start and now. Keep things fresh and don’t just post for the sake of it.
5. What do you hope visitors to your blog see, take away, feel or learn?
I  hope people see that I am honest and open and that I am true to myself as a woman, and a slave. I hope that people are able to take something away for themselves, but that they recognise that my relationship is not necessarily theirs.
6. Have you ever had something happen to you that you thought was bad but it turned out to be for the best?
I thought that Master’s former slave finding out about my blog and muscling in on my place in the world would be the end of my blog. But actually it had a very different effect on our relationships than I might have imagined.
Bonus: What was the last experience that made you a stronger person?
The past 2 years have been a massive learning experience – the loss of my dad, my mum’s health problems and subsequent coming to terms with them. But mostly the realisation that I can have my own life with Master which is not dependent on the expectations of other people.
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TMI Tuesday – Weekdays

My first TMI Tuesday in ages, but after the effort of the blogging A-Z during April, a meme or two feels the way to go:


1. Do you wish every day was like Sunday?
I guess in a way that would be rather nice, but we can’t always have what we wish for. Plus, I probably would never get anything done and neither would Master. It is great to lie in bed late, maybe have some sex and then chill out for the rest of the day. But we really couldn’t do that everyday!
2. Why don’t you like Mondays?
I struggle to get going on Monday. Getting up is often a struggle and then once up getting my body moving. I walk up the stairs to my 4th floor office every morning, and Monday is always the hardest.
3. Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday love–which is best day for sex?
Any day is good for me. Most frequently we have sex on Saturday or Sunday or perhaps both. This week though we had sex on Monday, as it was a bank holiday and we were together.
4. Do you look forward to hump day aka Wednesday?
Wednesday is past my hump day as I only work Monday to Thursday. I like Wednesday as I know that by the time I go home, I only have one more working day left. Having said that, I sometimes worry during Wednesday that I haven’t worked hard enough on Monday and Tuesday to achieve all I need to. By Wednesday evening though, I am past that!
5. Friday night just got paid…do you get paid on Fridays?
Only if 25th of the month is a Friday, as that’s when I get paid!
6. What were you doing 10:15 Saturday night?
We were at my local pub having a drink. Beer for Master and a glass of wine for me. We had eaten dinner at my place and then walked to the pub.
Bonus: Today in Washington, DC metro area it’s another Rainy day and it is Monday. What’s your weather?
Monday (I am writing this on Monday night) has been mild and cloudy for most of the day. We went to the cinema and found it was raining when we came out at 6pm.
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TMI Tuesday – Love is in the air!

1. List 3 benefits of living with your significant other.
When you live together you have the advantage of being able to be spontaneous, when you don’t live together, you tend to have to plan more. There is also more time to just be together, rather than fitting down time in around activities. It is probably cheaper to live together, since you are spending money on two houses with all of the associated costs, what is more, eating alone is less fun than cooking and eating together.
2. Have you ever reunited with a past lover and begun a relationship? Was the latest relationship as friends or lovers?
Yes, with S. It was, in hindsight not the best thing to do even though we had some fun as friends with benefits, second time around.
3. Do you think someone is more sexy if they regularly read books or work out regularly at a gym?
I find knowledge and being worldly wise more attractive than being muscle bound. Fitness is good, but fitness of the mind is even better!
4. How likely do you think it is that your marriage will end in divorce?
It’s a dead certainty, though I haven’t started the process yet. Master is not my husband of course.
5. Who has more power in your love or romantic relationship–you or your partner?
The power lies with him. That is why he is my Master.
Bonus: Describe the best Valentine’s Day you’ve ever had.
I went into labour on valentines day, it wasn’t the best day, but it resulted in the best present ever – my son.
I am not really one for celebrating valentines, everything is over priced and you can’t get a table in a restaurant without far too much forward planning. The best thing is to be home together having sex.
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TMI Tuesday – Let’s get personal

Haven’t done a TMI in a while, but this one looks fun (or maybe just buys into how I am feeling today).
1. Toilet paper. How do you hang your toilet paper? The end coming over the top or with the end coming from around the back and at the bottom?
Over the top. To be honest, I didn’t use to care, but 30 years of living with someone who did it that way has rubbed off. While he wasn’t right about much, he was about the toilet paper. 
2. Towels. Do you use a new one each time you bathe or reuse?
You are joking? Who needs that much washing. Plus, it is not as if I roll in mud every day.
3. Bathing. Do you use a washcloth to clean your body or use the soap directly all over your body with no washcloth?
My hands are good for washing with. If in a hotel and washcloths (or flannels as we call them in the UK) are available then, yes I will use them. Otherwise they are something that needs to be cleaned far more than I would want to be bothered with. Therefore perfect for hotel use. 
4. Bra. Do you remove your bra by taking your arms out of the straps first, then inching it around your body until you can reach the clasp and undo it or do you contort your arms, and reach around and unclasp.
Just take it off. Those prim and proper days are behind me!
5. Dishwasher. Rinse/pre-wash all dishes before loading or just load.
Life is too short for a pre-wash. My motto is load it up and turn it on. Master is amused though that the eco wash on my dishwasher lasts 3 hours. In reality the half hour wash is just as good. LOL
6. Breakfast cereal. Cereal in bowl first, then pour on milk or put milk in bowl then add cereal?
People put the milk in first?
7. Toothpaste. Squeeze from bottom working way up tube as it empties or squeeze from middle or wherever you want?
I tend to start by squeezing from the bottom, but somewhere along the line I squeeze in the middle. Having said that, I do my best to get it all out of the tube. 
8. Condoms. Do you put it on your lover or does he put it on himself?
We don’t use them, but if we did, then I love to be the one…..
9. Condom disposal. In the garbage bin or flush down toilet?
As above, we don’t use them. Flushing is bad for the environment right? 
Bonus: Write your own bonus question and tell us an intimate detail about you or your habits.
I always run through the same ritual when I shower, particularly when I wash my hair. Shampoo, rinse, apply conditioner and then wash in the same order every day then rinse off the conditioner. If I decide to shave in the shower too, the water is highly likely to run cold!

TMI Tuesday – Deep thoughts

1. What three things do you expect from a relationship with a lover/spouse?
Honesty, a willingness to want to be open and prepared to share both good and bad and desire.
2. What three things do you expect from a relationship with your child?
Our relationship is based on the fact that he can tell me anything and I will cope with the impact, but that telling me lies is really not on. Lately I have to accept he is an adult and is in charge of his own relationships, including that with his dad. Thirdly that he responds to my texts / calls within a couple of days and I will trust that all is well.
3. How do you mend a broken heart?
Time tends to meant most things I have found. That and meeting someone who makes you question why you thought your heart was broken in the first place!
4. What is your favorite therapy (remedial treatment of mental or bodily disorder)?
Walking is a great way to help your brain switch off and to clear your head. Failing that, then sex and just spending time in bed with Master is amazing. Both are equally strenuous of course.
5. Who in your life has an annoying habit? How do you deal with this?
My mum has an annoying habit of ringing at the wrong time. I am getting better at ignoring her calls and ringing her back later. Such as happened at the weekend when I happened to be sucking Master’s cock!!
6. In five words, describe yourself. You cannot use the following words: funny, fun, nice, kind, responsible.
Loving, trusting, happy, talkative, submissive.
Bonus: If in a long time, romantic relationship do you still flirt? How do you flirt with your significant other?
Oh, we flirt alright, but then it’s only been 15 months.
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TMI Tuesday – Sexpectations

1. What are some challenges related to your sex life?

The main things for us are about time – we are mainly together at the weekend, plus the fact that I am often tired after my working week. The best times are when I am feeling rested and relaxed. Maybe that is part of the reason why much of our sex takes place in the morning. Saturday and Sunday mornings are great for us.

2. Is quality or quantity most important?

Definitely quality. There is so much more to our relationship than pure sex. Of course, much of our interaction at other times has a sexual overtone. The power dynamic over rides all and I crave that more than anything else. But that too involves Him touching me, or me Him. It involves pain and pleasure. It involves worship of him. Sex is involved in all of that for us.

3. How much sex is enough?

Exactly what happens now is good.

4. I want to have more play time.

Balancing the time for normal life including time out enjoying ourselves, plus downtime alongside sex and play is tricky when you don’t live together. Given a choice though, more play time has got to be the thing.

5. I would like to attempt new sex positions such as _____ .

Hmmm not sure what positions, that are possible for people of our age that we haven’t tried.
Not a position, but maybe the chance for sex in the open air would be fun.

6. I would like to stop doing _____ sex position.

Stop? No, I definitely don’t intend to stop anything!

7. To me foreplay means an intimacy and closeness. 

Foreplay can be the beginning, middle and end. It can mean the beginning of something which He controls or occasionally it is something I am in control of. Whichever way, after years where foreplay was never present, it is ever present for us in our relationship.

8. Something I think about a lot related to sex is His Dominance and my submission. Sex and submission for me are often (though not always) intertwined. Last Friday evening it was standing room only in the pub. I stood sipping my drink when suddenly His hands were squeezing my crotch and then  my tits. He does so with such expert swiftness that no one notices a thing. I am then left wet and throbbing and wishing we were heading home soon……

Bonus: Tell us something you love about your sex life.
nothing about it is predictable. I love that so much!

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TMI Tuesday – Old Man Winter

1. Where you live what is the current season?
Old man winter is apparently making an appearance tonight
2. Do you measure/report the weather temperature in Celsius or Fahrenheit?
We have celsius here, I like to use it in winter as 0 or minus 5 or whatever sounds good. In summer, I like the sound of 70 or 75 rather than 18 or 23 or whatever it is!
3. Describe your ideal day of weather?
In summer it would be around the 73 mark. In winter, cool but dry.
4. When it is cold outside I want to:
a. Run outside naked because it is exhilarating.
b. Bundle up in warm clothes and take a winter walk – so long as it isn’t too cold and there is neither rain nor snow!
c. Turn the heat up, stay indoors, hibernate until warm weather returns.
d. I do not pay attention to the weather.
5. Do you go “commando” in cold weather or in winter?
I do, but have to admit that is often underneath trousers or some warm tights, but that’s still commando right???????
6. For 10,000 USD Would you rather ride a bike for one mile (1.6 km) in 7 degrees  F/ 14 degrees C weather  or jump naked into a freezing cold Alaskan lake in winter?
The bike, no way am i killing myself in Alaska, cos, that’s what jumping into a lake in winter means. Mind you, wouldn’t you end up skidding on the ice?
7. What is your favorite piece of winter clothing?
My gloves – got to keep your hands warm!
8. Have you ever worn Long Johns aka long underwear or thermal underwear?
Twice, once skiing in the alps and secondly on one of my trips to the German Christmas markets, wow, was it cold!!
Bonus: Do you have more or less sex in the winter months vs. other times of year?
Hard to say. Right now I am getting plenty of sex, but not sure if that is due to the winter or just because Master demands it!
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TMI Tuesday – 30th December 2014

1. It’s the end of 2014. How do you feel? Excited? Eager to see what’s in store for the new year?
2014 has been a mixture of highs and lows. I approach 2015 with the feeling that while it will be entirely different there will still be those highs and lows. However I am ready for whatever comes my way.
2. On a scale of 1-10 how satisfied were you with 2014? How satisfied were you with your sex life in 2014? (1 = completely disappointed, 10 = extremely satisfied)

The year itself could have been better, perhaps a 7. It would have been lower but for one important thing!
The sex? Oh, a perfect 10 thanks to my lovely Master!
3. What were your big accomplishments this year?
Firstly accepting that my relationship with S was over when he dumped me for the second time in January and then for getting straight into those ALT chatrooms and discovering the man who is now my Master.
On a personal family level, coping with the traumas in my life – my dad’s illness and death and the progress towards the final end of my marriage.
4. Did you make new year’s resolutions at the beginning of year 2014? How many did you keep?
I started off with Dry January and lasted about 17 days. I resolved to lose weight and did, though it is creeping back on so yet another January diet, this time I think I will try the 5:2. Other than that, I resolved to be happier and I am.
5. Out of all that happened in 2014, what are the biggest lessons you learned?
Sometimes you just have to let life take its course, what will happen will happen. I allowed Master’s former slave to wind me up and to make me unhappy when all I needed to do was to allow their relationship to run its own course. Of course saying it and doing it are two different things.
6. What are you most proud of in 2014?
Managing to keep my head above water work wise when so much else was happening in my life. For that I have my boss to thank and of course my family and most of all my Master. He expects certain behaviours of me and I have learned to think about that before I do and say things, especially at work.
7. How did you spend the majority of your free time in 2014?
With Master. We have been to some wonderful places together and had some fun times. I have also had some amazing play times with Him as well as experiencing the best sex of my life. 
8. Tell us something new you’d like to do or learn in 2015.
It is not new as such, but given I have my apartment in France, I would like to try to improve my french in 2015.

Happy New Year!

Bonus: How was your sex life in 2014?
a. Great
b. Good
c. Not bad
d. It’ll do
e. What’s sex?!
a. great of course!
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