TMI Tuesday – 28 November 2017

Spice it up!

1. Why should you have sex on a first date?Because sometimes life is to short not to. For S and me it was right. I needed to find out if there was more to me than being a suburban housewife. If I really was a desirable women, a slut. Plus I really needed sex, deprived. For him, well hopefully it was about him desiring me. With Master we both wanted sex on our first date but despite desire for each other let common sense take over. Indeed on our next date we had sex. The rest is history.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?I have massive hangups. Even now I that I know there will be no unexpected ejaculation I have problems. But I love the taste of him, the smell and the comfort in sucking him. So actually I don’t dislike giving oral sex, rather I love it.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.The tongue is important. With your tongue you can both explore and taste. Plus what about his tongue exploring me? That is just the best thing!

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?Daddy all the time. It isn’t the sugar thing I need but just him. Though we don’t go for the daddy thing. 

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?Feeling and looking stressed and angsty. For him, I am being bratty. He can tell that I need him to pay attention to me and I need to do the same for him. It is a two way avenue. 

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?

Both are good.  But in the main we fuck. We really do love each other though!

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Busy time ahead

It seems that my mum will move before Christmas. She is downsizing to live near my brother, in a bungalow. The fact that she wants to take all of her furniture had been a bit of a problem. Until today when I realised that she is probably the least sentimental person in the world. She values furniture but not much else, which could be helpful (unless things change).

I have two brothers. The one who will be living nearby and the one who currently does. The latter doesn’t want her to move for purely selfish reasons. Currently local brother has been using mum as something of a cash cow. Plus he hates the idea of giving up the family home. A place where he can still find the spirit of my dad.

But mum needs a place without stairs. Somewhere she is close to amenities. She also needs some money not tied up in property.

Moving date will probably be before Christmas, something I had discounted as recently as last week. Both brothers have jobs that will be busy till Christmas (the one she will live nearer after the move is a supermarket manager). So today the clear out began.

Exam results, school reports, birthday cards and postcards from baby grandchildren uncovered while mum watched daytime tv. So much history to be retained until I can check it is wanted. Sadly, such stuff will come home with me before it gets thrown out.

This is the beginning of the end of my childhood, a woman of 55 clinging onto memories while her mother watches The Chase.

This weekend my sensible brother will help us sort the useful from the rubbish. The sentimental from the necessary. I expect I will hang on to all photos, school reports and anything else vaguely sentimental. Later on my mum will thank me……

Share our Shit Saturday #1

Why do this?

Over the past few weeks a new meme has emerged. Share our Shit Saturday is designed to highlight the great sex bloggers out there on the inter web and all of the amazing work that they produce. There is so much wonderful stuff to find – raunchy fiction, beautiful poetry and prose, amazingly skilful photography and serious posts about the future of sex blogging.

To say the mainstream social media such as Facebook and Twitter are not keen on helping to promote us would be an understatement. The latest effort to prevent those tweeting anything deemed explicit is Shadow Banning. Twitter prevents accounts it deems undesirable from being seen by those not already following. Therefore it becomes difficult to promote websites, books, films etc. As a pretty low volume, low profile blogger, luckily this hasn’t happened to me as yet. But many of the sex blogging and writing community are shadow banned.

And, that is not all there is to worry about. Ever since we attended Eroticon  earlier in the year I have been aware of the legal issues that are approaching. Myles Jackman, a UK obscenity Lawyer very eloquently explained the legal minefield we face in showing and describing acts deemed obscene.

It is weird to think that just because you enjoy sex that is a little more kinky than the norm. Just because you may call your partner Sir or Master like to be spanked you are in some way abnormal. But that is definitely the case.

For some reason there is an obsession about children and young people accessing literature and photos deemed pornographic online. There seems less concern about violence or about ensuring that our youth are well educated and prepared for life. Enabled to understand what a healthy relationship looks like. The same politicians proposing and then passed this bill have been exposed as sex pests and abusers. Apparently this is less dangerous to the young than exposure to online porn!

In April 2018 there will be a requirement to have an age check mechanism on websites and online platforms providing ‘commercial’ pornography. Everything I read about this makes me believe that this is a data breach scandal waiting to happen. Not only that, but in my experience young people are very savvy about how to get around rules. So I am not even sure these mechanisms will be enough to stop a determined teen. None of us want children looking at our blogs and websites, let alone commercial porn. But this isn’t the way to stop them and it feels that along the way we all might end up being vilified at best and criminalised at worst.

My reading recommendations

This week I have been reading around the subject. Pandora Blake provides an excellent over view of the potential dangers of age verification.

Many of my fellow sex bloggers and authors use Patreon to help support and fund their work. I have to admit that until this week I had little knowledge of  some of the challenges everyone is facing. It seems that moves are afoot to stop erotic authors, photographers  and film producers being excluded from this support. I discovered ErosBlog  this week as I tried to find out more. I highly recommend reading this and other posts.

So onto some of the bloggers that I love and respect and their posts this week that I have enjoyed.

Molly wrote an amazing post for the Wicked Wednesday prompt Geography. I am in awe of her creativity as a blogger and photographer. I love that she used the geography of husband Michael’s body as the centre of the post.

Ann St Vincent has the most amazing poor luck in finding the right kind of guy to date. As we know, many people lie about their marital status, about their readiness for a new relationship or just about the fact that they are only around for a quick fuck. I love Ann’s blog, she manages to keep cheerful while weeding out the dross from the downright dishonest.

Fondles and I have a long history of visiting each other’s blog, reading and commenting. She started her relationship with BIKSS at the same time I met S and there were some similarities as our journey began. Various life things got in the way and Fondles stopped blogging for a while. Now, though she is back with a vengeance and we have reconnected via our blogs.

Given the huge introduction to the topic, that is it for today. But I do plan to make #SoSS a regular thing.

ELUST #100

Photo courtesy of Wriggly Kitty

Welcome to Elust 100

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

He’s Out of My League

Pink Hair, Don’t Care!

I’m a feminist but…

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Pain Sluts and Brain Squirrels

His Car Keys

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Raw

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Writing About Writing

Why Financial Disclosures Matter on Your Blog

Erotic Fiction

Caught
An American Werewolf in London
The Spider and the Fly
Faithfully
kitten

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Static
Over exposed?

Erotic Non-Fiction

Mirror Image
Return to Position, Part 1
One Present Moment
Edgy Morning
The Date-Aversary Continues
The Smell, Taste and Love of Chocolate.

Poetry

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Asking can be sexy too!
Soaring in Space
Age Play
MY PEOPLE, HER PEOPLE. The FemDom ball
Stroke of luck

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Adult Content on Patreon
Censorship on Share our Shit Saturday
#SSoS Sharing for the Win

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

#iTalkSex Why I Talk Sex
Radical Acceptance In Relationships
So… ghosting is an acceptable thing now
What giving a collar means to me

Blogging

Reflections on us and the blog

 

 

Elust 88

Brat

From Kinky.com:

“Brat is a term for the BDSM role of a bratty submissive or bottom. Unlike the common conception of a submissive, a brat talks back, misbehaves, and is otherwise difficult”.

I admit it.

While I am always keen to please, I also argue and talk  back. As far as Master is concerned, I am something of a brat.

Let’s be clear here, I don’t set out to disagree. But I have opinions and need to get them out there.

Trouble is, my opinions are not always wanted or needed and so I am labelled as a brat.

That does not mean I am not a slave. In essence, I always comply and follow the rules laid out. But it would also be true to say that I want to discuss what those rules are. Or else I am keen to know where boundaries lie.

He both loves and hates my approach to living within the boundaries already set out. He both wants my compliance and also wants me to challenge.

But he is my Master. So I really do want to strike a balance. Even when I am being the brat I crave correction. Unless of course there is no correction necessary.

Does that make me a brat?

Housekeeping

The change in seasons seems to have helped renew my desire to blog. Well, that is what I am putting it down to. Dark evenings, nothing much on TV and little to do much of the time. Whatever the cause, I plan to embrace it. Time then for some housekeeping.

It is about 9 months since I moved my blog and became self hosting. I had chosen the theme a while back and the move was traumatic. So just getting things functional (with a little help from the webmaster @Domsigns) was sufficient. I knew that a tidy up was needed but didn’t have the strength, desire or whatever to get on with it.

This weekend though I bit the bullet and have spent most of that time and this evening sorting things out to my liking. There might be more changes, but for now they will be superficial.

Theme

Apparently this theme is called Twenty Sixteen, so a bit more up to date than Twenty Ten. At the moment I have inserted a photo of me in my collar complete with my slave pendant at the top. This might change if something better comes along.

Blogroll

I have removed some blogs where people have removed their site or haven’t posted for many months. Plus added in new places to visit. This is work in progress.

Sidebar

Rather than have pages etc.  at the top of the site, I have used the sidebar  to help navigate around useful stuff. Information about us and our relationship and my journey. Plus the memes I contribute to and other things I consider important. This is as much for me as anyone else.

Categories

After the move I managed to duplicate all of my posts (don’t ask me how) and then managed to strip out all of the tags and categories. This was demoralising. I had near on 5 years of blog posts at the time. I started going through post by post adding categories back in. But, since a number were about a previous D/s relationship and also the break up of my marriage it was a difficult job. What to do? Delete the old stuff perhaps? Trouble is, the things that happened in 2012 and 2013 define me as a person and as a submissive. The things that happened then have an impact on my relationship with Master. So I left them.

This weekend I started sorting the 100 or so posts that were left in ‘uncategorised’. Tonight I finished the job.

For now the housekeeping job is done. I am sure there will be more, but for now I am happy.

Getting horny

He was reading the previous post about my pussy and of course admiring the photo that he took. He looked at me sitting next to him in bed and grinned. “You are right”, he said  “I love looking at your cunt” We discussed my thoughts on not really liking to look at photos of other women, especially those with labia are spread open. He exclaimed again that he loves to look at mine!

“I think you should go get on the swing” he said. The swing is a sex swing that is kept in the play room next door. We haven’t used it as much as we should, to be honest. So I got out of bed and followed him into the room. He helped me get comfortable, and next thing he kneeled on the bed, head between my legs. Fingers and tongue explored me as I hung suspended over the bed. He sucked and nibbled, following up with strokes of my clit and into my slick hole. He asked me if I wanted to cum, but I didn’t. Anyway, he wasn’t about to give permission just yet.

Next he squeezed my right nipple and at the same time continued to suck my clitoris, almost immediately I knew I wanted and needed to come. I held off for as long as I could and then asked permission. “Yes, cum” he said. Another orgasm later and I was beginning to feel the sling pulling on my neck. He let me down and demanded I get on top.

Willingly I did so. Easing his large cock into my tight and wet and throbbing vagina. I was able to move and grind over him as he played with my tits. Then stroking my clit around the piercing, he made me cum once more. Finally we flipped over and soon I had my prize, his cum shooting into me.

Definitely a sinful Sunday and which perhaps might even lead to masturbation Monday!

Pride in my pussy

I have not really been one to look at or admire the vulval area of women. I love to look at beautiful women naked, the curve of the hip, the roundness of the breast and perhaps a little tummy bulge. It isn’t that I dislike seeing a woman’s pussy. It’s just I have never found them to be the most attractive area of the body.

Hairy or shaved, or indeed somewhere in between like me doesn’t matter. Pink or red vulval areas are fine. I just don’t really want them in my face.  So when browsing tumblr or such a place I speed on through when faced with too much pussy. Especially if it is pinned open so you can almost see into her uterus. Photos where a woman has piercings does intrigue me, partly because of my own clitoral piercing. But also because I am curious about outer labial piercings too.

Master is making me reevaluate my thoughts though, because he likes to look at my pussy and to photograph it. He sits and holds my labia open and tells me how my clitoris looks as I become more aroused. He leans in close and inspects it and of course licks and nibbles. I am not bare, because it is what he wants and he likes to trim and shave me to his liking.

Time then for a Sinful Sunday pussy photo

I am posting this to Molly’s Pussy Pride Project too, time to take pride in my pussy and those of other women.

Pussy Pride
Sinful Sunday